A complete listing of all the blog posts since the site began:
2024
- November 2nd : Is limerence a sign that something is wrong in life?
- October 26th : Limerence entanglements
- October 19th : Why do workplace crushes happen?
- October 12th : Coffeehouse: social media
- October 5th : R.I.P. Helen Fisher
- September 28th : The madness of limerence
- September 24th : Calling all London limerents
- September 21st : Why limerents behave irresponsibly
- September 14th : Coffeehouse: open thread
- September 7th : Dodgy limerent objects
- August 31st : A new limerence research project
- August 24th : Guest post: fictional limerence
- August 17th : Case study: LO wants to be my best friend
- August 10th : Coffeehouse: the influence of environment
- August 3rd : Internal versus external drivers of limerence
- July 27th : Emotional versus physical affairs
- July 26th : Podcast on the Longing Lab
- July 20th : A new era for LwL
- July 13th : Coffeehouse: signs you’re not over them
- July 6th : Midlife crisis for limerents
- June 29th : New project: dealing with limerence in marriage
- June 22nd : Is polyamory a solution for limerence?
- June 15th : Limerence in the Observer
- June 8th : Coffeehouse: time travel wisdom
- June 1st : Can a marriage recover from limerence?
- May 25th : Hazardous limerent objects
- May 18th : Who is to blame for limerence?
- May 11th : Communication after an affair
- April 27th : People who like to live in uncertainty
- April 20th : The two tribes
- April 13th : How common is limerence: the numbers
- April 6th : Coffeehouse: limerence bootcamp
- March 23rd : Case study: Nothing works…
- March 16th : Limerence and the second sex
- March 9th : Skills for a healthy relationship
- March 2nd : Coffeehouse: book update
- February 24th : Case study: polyamory and unwelcome limerence
- February 17th : Signs that your partner doesn’t respect you
- February 10th : Dealing with limerence in marriage
- February 3rd : Limerence in the New York Times
- January 27th : Coffeehouse: would you turn off your limerence?
- January 13th : More on the limerence binary
- January 6th : Is limerence binary or a spectrum?
- December 30th : Winter coffeehouse
- December 23rd : Holiday limerence
- December 16th : Is limerence personal or universal?
- December 9th : Coffeehouse: the comfort of the familiar
- December 2nd : How risky are limerent fantasies?
- November 25th : Limerence limbo
- November 18th : How to get over an office crush
- November 11th : Coffeehouse: the search for meaning
- November 4th : On jealousy
- October 28th : Keeping secrets
- October 21st : Case study: I resent my husband’s limerent object
- October 14th : Coffeehouse: the big barriers to limerence recovery
- October 7th : Coping with betrayal
- September 30th : Busy, busy, busy
- September 23rd : Coffeehouse: it’s all in the eyes
- September 16th : Friendship after limerence
- September 9th : Incompatible limerent objects
- September 2nd : Taking action to improve your life
- August 26th : Coffeehouse: managing competing demands
- August 19th : The overselling of pop neuroscience
- August 12th : How to make decisions
- August 5th : How indecision worsens limerence
- July 29th : What is within your control?
- July 22nd : The need for courage
- July 15th : How limerence can lead to renewal
- July 8th : Who do you want to be?
- July 1st : Cultivating self-awareness
- June 24th : Self awareness and purposeful living
- June 17th : A video on why affairs happen
- June 10th : Mutual limerence
- June 3rd : Case study: relentless limerence
- May 27th : Coffeehouse: how to resist temptation
- May 13th : This crush just won’t be crushed!
- April 29th : Why does romantic attraction fade?
- April 22nd : Finding purpose when languishing
- April 15th : Limerence research survey
- April 8th : A good video on limerence
- March 25th : On grief
- March 18th : A philosopher’s response to limerence
- March 11th : Coffeehouse: escaping the shadow of first limerence
- March 4th : Why are they leading me on?
- February 25th : A personal note on adversity
- February 18th : What makes a good romantic partner?
- February 11th : Morality, limerence and purposeful living
- February 4th : Case study: why is limerence so painful?
- January 28th : Honesty as a foundation for purposeful living
- January 21st : The elements of purposeful living
- January 14th : How can you tell if someone is limerent?
- January 7th : Community, coaching and purposeful living
- December 31st : New Year purpose
- December 24th : Coffeehouse: limerence at Christmas
- December 17th : How to get over someone who doesn’t want you
- December 10th : Sources of conflict
- December 3rd : Cultivating purpose
- November 26th : Limerence is in vogue
- November 19th : Case study: I want him to be limerent for me
- November 12th : Coffeehouse: the problem of ego
- November 5th : How to change your behaviour for the better
- October 29th : What causes a crush to develop?
- October 22nd : Unanswered questions about limerence
- October 15th : For those who are stuck
- October 8th : Coffeehouse: should I fight for them?
- October 1st : Testosterone and limerence
- September 24th : A research project on limerence
- September 17th : Why is limerence so addictive?
- September 10th : On beauty
- August 27th : Is your limerent object a narcissist?
- August 20th : Coffeehouse: transferring limerence
- August 13th : Case study: when No Contact doesn’t work
- August 6th : What does limerence mean for a marriage?
- July 30th : The psychology of wanting unavailable people
- July 23rd : Coffeehouse: should you write a letter to LO?
- July 16th : Can you be friends with your crush?
- July 9th : Finding purpose through ikigai
- June 25th : Case study: finding purpose out of limerence
- June 18th : Limerence and bonding
- June 11th : Coffeehouse: Jealous LOs
- June 4th : Limerence and the rescue fantasy
- May 28th : Analysis of the limerence experience
- May 21st : Quick update: key articles
- May 14th : The worst case of limerence I’ve ever seen
- April 30th : Oscar-winning beauty
- April 23rd : Severus Snape, limerent
- April 16th : Coffeehouse: dark empaths
- April 9th : Why does someone have a crush on me?
- April 2nd : Why is it so hard to stop wanting someone?
- March 26th : Are you a limerent?
- March 19th : What causes limerence?
- March 12th : Coffeehouse: how to deal with difficulties
- March 5th : Reflections on five years of blogging
- February 26th : Flow state, limerence recovery and purposeful living
- February 19th : Limerence for unhealthy people
- February 12th : The BBC discovers limerence
- February 5th : How to stop thinking about someone you can’t have
- January 29th : Who are you attracted to?
- January 22nd : Case study: post-limerence melancholy
- January 15th : Limerence and serotonin
- January 8th : Case study: obsessed with my LO’s LO
- January 1st : A new approach to New Year’s resolutions
- December 25th : Season’s greetings
- December 18th : Case study: when should I commit?
- December 11th : The Ulysses contract
- December 4th : What causes obsession with another person?
- November 27th : Catalogue shopping for online love
- November 20th : Case study: I think I’m a limerent object
- November 13th : Courage and limerence
- November 6th : The morality of monogamy
- October 30th : Why is monogamy so hard?
- October 23rd : Why does monogamy exist?
- October 16th : Case study: limerence and ego
- October 9th : Can infatuation be platonic?
- October 2nd : Limerence as escape
- September 25th : Another limerence podcast
- September 18th : How to get over infatuation
- September 11th : Dealing with the guilt of limerence
- September 4th : Post navigation: a greatest hits collection
- August 28th : Limerence as an altered state of mind
- August 21st : Rumination and intrusive thoughts
- August 14th : Case study: limerent for a mentor
- August 7th : Limerence or love addiction?
- July 31st : Why can’t I get over my first love?
- July 24th : Limerence and anxious attachment
- July 17th : Why can’t I get over someone I barely dated?
- July 10th : Purposeful living for single limerents
- July 3rd : Design your (purposeful) life
- June 26th : The neuroscience of self-discipline
- June 19th : Self-discipline as limerence armour
- June 12th : Where to find purpose
- June 5th : When are we most vulnerable to limerence?
- May 29th : What is heartache?
- May 22nd : Gaslighting
- May 15th : Does limerence cause affairs?
- April 24th : Can infatuation turn into love?
- April 17th : Why can’t I get over my crush?
- April 10th : Spring is a time for renewal
- April 3rd : Playing with fire
- March 27th : The perils of online dating for limerents
- March 20th : Why limerence is not just a crush
- March 13th : How long will my limerence last?
- March 6th : The psychology of limerent Idealisation
- February 27th : Case study: I miss the high
- February 20th : “The crush you can’t quit”
- February 13th : Are you a different person during limerence?
- February 6th : Relationship OCD
- January 30th : A limerence quiz
- January 23rd : Supernormal stimuli
- January 16th : Case study: why do I feel betrayed?
- January 9th : Limerence at different ages
- December 26th : The Science of Love
- December 19th : The need for change
- December 12th : A guide for coaches and therapists
- December 5th : The death of hope
- November 28th : Tolerance as a protection mechanism against limerence
- November 21st : On not knowing what you want
- November 14th : Can we choose to fall out of love?
- November 7th : Why limerence feels so good
- October 31st : Obligation
- October 24th : Emergency deprogramming, mark 2
- October 17th : How does limerence begin?
- October 10th : Jekyll and Hyde
- October 3rd : The neuroscience of limerence
- September 26th : Community forum
- September 19th : The best cure for limerence
- September 12th : How to get rid of limerence
- September 5th : What is limerence?
- September 5th : Back to basics
- August 29th : Good LOs
- August 22nd : Update and a little light relief
- August 15th : Case study: stalked by LO
- August 8th : On forgiveness
- August 1st : Future planning
- July 25th : When things go sour
- July 18th : Freedom from limerence is…
- July 11th : Risk taking
- July 4th : The morality of limerence
- June 27th : Case study: LO wanted my friend
- June 20th : How common is limerence?
- June 13th : The green shoots of recovery
- June 6th : Case study: ghosted by LO
- May 30th : And I want you so it’s an obsession
- May 23rd : Dating red flags for limerents
- May 16th : Oversharing
- May 9th : Limerence and the sexless marriage
- May 2nd : What if they’re out of your league?
- April 25th : Barriers to purposeful living
- April 18th : Planning your purposeful life
- April 11th : Fast track to freedom
- April 4th : Case study update: karma edition
- March 28th : Resisting limerent urges
- March 21st : More on the styles of love
- March 18th : Love in the time of corona
- March 14th : Why do they seem so special?
- March 7th : Living with Limerence, The Book
- February 29th : The psychological appeal of giving in
- February 22nd : Indecisive LOs
- February 15th : Dealing with conflicting desires
- February 8th : Why am I so down on limerence?
- February 1st : Why wasn’t I good enough for them?
- January 25th : A good summary of the purposeful mindset
- January 18th : Love and limerence (part two)
- January 11th : Love and limerence (part one)
- January 4th : Beating limerence in 2020
- December 28th : Year in review
- December 21st : Case study: a pushy LO
- December 14th : If I only knew…
- December 7th : People pleasing limerents
- November 30th : The recovery mindset
- November 23rd : Resolving to recover
- November 16th : The key stages of limerence (infographic)
- November 9th : LOs who won’t let go
- November 2nd : Closure is an illusion
- October 26th : Social media and limerence
- October 19th : Q&A on limerence affairs
- October 12th : Using limerence for mood regulation
- October 5th : Why limerence is a better explanation than Twin Flames
- September 28th : Can limerence explain Twin Flames?
- September 21st : Limerence and insecurity
- September 14th : A video on purposeful living
- September 7th : Wanting versus liking
- August 31st : Common mistakes that limerents make
- August 17th : The Recovery Room podcast
- August 10th : Case study: spiritually reinforcing limerence
- August 3rd : Getting through to limerent spouses
- July 27th : Figuring out how best to “treat” limerence
- July 19th : Spotting trouble: LOs to avoid
- July 13th : Rebuilding trust
- July 6th : The four phases of No Contact
- June 29th : More on midlife limerence
- June 22nd : Case study: limerent while single
- June 15th : What’s happened to my spouse?
- June 8th : Is limerence always about pair-bonding?
- June 1st : Case study: limerent for an ex
- May 25th : Seeking healthy rewards
- May 18th : Freedom from limerence
- May 11th : The purposeful living reading list
- May 4th : When things have got physical
- April 26th : Tipping points in a limerence affair
- April 20th : Case study: invited to LO’s wedding
- April 13th : Men and women
- April 6th : The loneliness of No Contact
- March 30th : How long does limerence last?
- March 23rd : Barriers and uncertainty
- March 17th : The definition of limerence
- March 9th : Limerence for celebrities
- March 2nd : Case study: Limerence for a therapist
- February 25th : Obsession podcast
- February 23rd : When does limerence become an emotional affair?
- February 16th : How to fix a broken heart
- February 9th : The loneliness of limerence
- February 2nd : Why do limerents feel guilty?
- January 26th : A video on romantic love
- January 23rd : Calling all limerents and LOs
- January 20th : On infidelity, moral philosophy, and commenting policy
- January 13th : Case study: limerent for a close family friend
- January 8th : Withdrawal pains
- December 30th : New Year’s resolutions that stick
- December 23rd : Living with unrequited limerence
- December 16th : Limerence as stress relief
- December 9th : Limerence for a co-worker
- November 30th : Understanding the limerent high
- November 25th : Rewriting history
- November 20th : The Devil within us
- November 18th : Transition complete
- November 14th : A new era
- November 10th : Can limerence be safely harnessed?
- November 3rd : Life as a limerent: autopilot mode
- October 26th : Narcissist LOs
- October 22nd : Overcoming limerence for good
- October 14th : Limerence as an act of rebellion
- October 8th : The stories we tell ourselves
- October 1st : The seduction of limerent reverie
- September 23rd : Introvert limerents
- September 8th : Why is it so hard to kick the limerence habit?
- September 1st : Kicking the limerence habit
- August 26th : Unavailable LOs
- August 17th : Living with uncertainty
- August 12th : What can spouses do?
- August 2nd : Limerence and polyamory
- July 27th : Caring about LO
- July 19th : Displacement activities
- June 25th : The benefits of No Contact
- June 13th : Limerence, everywhere I look…
- May 21st : Limerence and emotional attachment
- May 12th : When not to disclose
- May 6th : When to disclose
- April 8th : Limerence dreams
- March 29th : Getting through the aftermath of No Contact
- February 23rd : Flirting at work
- February 14th : One year on
- February 6th : Deprogramming the limerent brain
- January 28th : The allure of bad boys and girls
- January 14th : Is limerence a mental illness?
- December 31st : Why is limerence so powerful?
- December 5th : Jealousy
- December 1st : Happily ever after
- November 22nd : The three phases of limerence
- November 12th : What to do if you are married but limerent for someone else
- October 16th : Finding the right match
- September 18th : I’m totally over this. Let’s go for coffee!
- September 9th : Why are some people so addictive?
- August 31st : Sometimes love takes work
- August 23rd : The seduction of Romance
- July 30th : Intersections
- July 20th : Relapse
- May 14th : Limerence music
- May 9th : Rationalisation
- May 5th : Taking control
- May 3rd : Romantic love
- April 28th : Article on long-term love
- April 24th : Limerence and sex
- April 21st : Limerence and the friendzone
- April 19th : Hard choices
- April 17th : Integrity
- April 14th : Article on limerence as pathology
- April 10th : Help! Someone is limerent for me…
- April 7th : Therapy for limerence
- April 5th : Infidelity and limerence
- April 3rd : A good vid
- March 29th : Resilience
- March 27th : Choosing well
- March 24th : Person addiction
- March 22nd : Emotional affairs
- March 20th : Limerence links
- March 17th : Why does limerence exist?
- March 13th : Can’t we just be friends?
- March 8th : False love
- March 6th : Is limerence all bad?
- March 3rd : Uncertainty
- March 1st : Flirting
- February 27th : Do they like me too?
- February 24th : The Glimmer givers
- February 22nd : The Glimmer
- February 17th : My story
- February 14th : The beginning