The Living with Limerence site has grown steadily over the last five years, and we’re now at a point where it’s hard to keep track of all the content. I find myself frequently responding to comments with links, and starting to think about post topics but then realising I’ve covered the idea before.
To impose some order on this back catalogue, I thought it would be useful to gather together some of the key posts (and random thoughts) for the recurrent themes around limerence. There’s undeniable charm in wandering the stacks of an old book shop or library, browsing for overlooked oddities, but sometimes an index is useful.
Here, then, are some of the LwL greatest hits…
1. What is limerence?
An obvious starting point. What is it? Who invented/discovered it? What’s the best way of understanding it? And how good is the evidence base?
2. What’s going on in our heads?
I’m a neuroscientist, and so my understanding of limerence stems from interpreting the symptoms of limerence in terms of the neural systems that give rise to them.
3. Coping with the negative aspects of limerence
In the depths of person addiction, we have to deal with a depressingly wide range of challenging emotions. Here are some of the commonest.
4. The moral perspective
Limerents often feel guilty about their obsession. There are many reasons why, but also a contrary view that argues for emancipation from guilt and embracing the bliss. The philosophical argument rages, but in the meantime, here’s some practical advice on how to cope.
5. All about limerent objects
Self awareness is the major battle for recovery, but it also helps to understand what it is about Them that sends you so doolally.
6. Mastering limerence
The way to triumph is to integrate limerence into your sense of self in a healthy way. It’s part of who you are, but that doesn’t mean you have to let it control you. Here are some practical ways to take back control.
Finally, there are, of course, many other resources available.
As a last section, here are some of my favourite posts, picked for silliness, oddness, or random insights. Enjoy!
Five years worth of material, but I’m not done yet. As ever, please feel free to suggest topic ideas in the comments, or ask for personal advice as a Case study (via the Ask Dr L form at the bottom of the home page).
If we keep digging, we’ll keep uncovering riches.