A really interesting discussion broke out recently in the Surviving Partner Limerence community, about the phenomenon of denial. Some limerents flat out refuse to accept that there is any problem …
How thought loops make limerence worse
I've always approached limerence from the perspective of a neuroscientist. I think it's fascinating how the basic mechanisms of the reward and bonding systems can escalate a thrilling and …
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Escape from limerence when you can’t go No Contact
This week's video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5uFIpp6Gy0 If you’re trapped in a mental state of limerence—a state of intense romantic infatuation—one of the best ways to recover is to go …
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Oversharing
Note: This is an updated version of an older blog post. One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming desire to tell your limerent object everything about yourself. Many limerents …
How to tell if someone actually finds you attractive
My last YouTube video was stimulated by finding a new paper on how bad people are at judging each others attempts at mindreading romantic and sexual interest. I've written about this topic before, …
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Life as a limerent: autopilot mode
Note: this is a revised and updated version of a previous post. One of the most disruptive aspects of limerence is the total attention-capture that sets in. At first, most limerents are OK with …