I recently received an email from a reader with a familiar problem. During therapy, she had discussed how limerence was disrupting her life, and received the following advice from her …
What does limerence mean for a marriage?
One of the most destructive forms of limerence is when a married person becomes limerent for someone else. There is an abundance of pain to go around: most obviously for the innocent spouse, but also …
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The psychology of wanting unavailable people
One of the more painful scenarios that limerents have to deal with is when their limerence avatar is "unavailable people". I've written before about the challenges of unavailable LOs. It's a …
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Coffeehouse: should you write a letter to LO?
Today's topic was proposed by reader Mana, who wondered about the benefits of writing a letter to LO. That struck me as a subject that could benefit from the distributed wisdom of the LwL community, …
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Can you be friends with your crush?
It is an agony most of us have known: you develop romantic feelings for a friend, but they don't feel the same way about you. The disappointment of rejection hurts, of course, but even more serious is …
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Chemistry versus compatibility: how to choose a partner
One of the biggest difficulties in romantic relationships is the conflict between two necessary factors: chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the visceral excitement of desire - the sparky, …
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