Note: this is an updated version of a previous post In her landmark book, Love and Limerence, Dorothy Tennov describes how she finally formulated the concept of limerence on a long haul flight with …
On beauty
On holiday this week, so today's post is a repost from the olden days of the site (2017). I'm still fascinated by the neuroscience of beauty, and why our LOs become so dazzling during limerence. The …
Barriers and uncertainty
Following on from last week's post, I've been wondering about the circumstances and conditions that can push limerence into a descending spiral of addictive misery. It certainly seems to be true that …
The stories we tell ourselves
In the previous post, I talked about reverie, and how limerents tend to rehearse scenes in their minds as a way of feeling connected to LO and trying to prepare for future meetings. Another aspect of …
The allure of bad boys and girls
All limerents are at some point going to be confronted by the need to try and understand why they become limerent for particular LOs. Some will be unfortunate enough to realise that they repeatedly …
Happily ever after
Many people blame fairytales for their relationship problems. Especially Disney. Damn Cinderellas and Princes Charming and happilys ever after. So unrealistic. But that word, "happily", is a …