Life, love, and limerence
Being a middle-aged married man, the perils and pitfalls of dating are a distant memory for me now. Mostly of noisy nightclubs and flavoured vodka For people of my vintage, "going out" with …
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There are lots of obstacles along the road to recovery from limerence. Here at LwL we advocate for an internal focus for responding to unwanted limerence: it's happening in our heads, we can't control …
Berty emailed me with a thought-provoking question about limerence and pair-bonding: I'm still puzzling at the pair-bonding as the only source. It seems too narrow - especially for those of us well …
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Much of the discussion about limerence in psychological circles explicitly pathologises it as an experience, and works from the premise that it is a mental disorder arising from an underlying trauma …
One of the defining features of limerence is the idealisation of the LO. Personality traits that in others can seem off-putting (if not obnoxious) become charming idiosyncracies in our LOs. It works …
When you're going through hell... keep going. Winston Churchill. As I've grown older, I've come to realise that one of the most important life skills to cultivate is resilience. It perhaps seems …
