Note: This is an updated version of an older blog post. One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming desire to tell your limerent object everything about yourself. Many limerents …
Playing with fire
Note: this is an updated version of an earlier post It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone …
On beauty
On holiday this week, so today's post is a repost from the olden days of the site (2017). I'm still fascinated by the neuroscience of beauty, and why our LOs become so dazzling during limerence. The …
Supernormal stimuli
One of the defining features of limerence - and the feature that makes it so difficult for others to understand - is the wildly exaggerated importance that we assign to our limerent objects. Why do we …
The recovery mindset
One of the most difficult aspects of beating unwanted limerence is the conflict between the intellectual decision to stop it, and the emotional thirst to keep it going. This is the addict's challenge: …
Resolving to recover
One of the philosophical pillars of this site is that limerence isn't in itself a problem; it becomes a problem when the circumstances of a particular limerence episode cause a transition into …