It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone new, the neurochemical high from early limerence is …
Limerence limbo
Happy New Year, folks. I always look on the start of a new year as a time for renewal, and that seems especially true this year, given the horror show that was 2020. We're not out of trouble …
Beating limerence in 2020
It's 2020. Happy New Year everyone! New year, new decade, new opportunities for personal growth. As this is the time of year for resolutions, I thought I'd start with a post about how to use …
Using limerence for mood regulation
It's an unhappy truth that limerence is worst when you're unhappy. Limerence can often start during a time of of trial: when you are exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed, lonely, grieving, or depressed. …
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Limerence and insecurity
I spend a goodly amount of time here at LwL trying to understand the factors that make limerence more or less likely to occur. There are some repeating themes - intermittent reward, uncertainty, …
Wanting versus liking
One of the weird features of limerence is the ongoing desire for contact with LO even after you've realised it's unhealthy and bad for you. Well, actually, it's not all that weird - it's a common …