The average duration of a limerent episode is between 18 months and 3 years. That estimate comes from Tennov's book, and was based on interviews with hundreds of people struggling with …
Relationship OCD
Limerence has been described as a cross between OCD and addiction. This is a useful simplification in many ways, because limerence is characterised by obsessive, intrusive thoughts, and we can get so …
The green shoots of recovery
Becoming more self-aware is a core skill for recovering from limerence. The ability to detach your self-scrutiny from your moment-to-moment emotional state allows you to be more aware of what you are …
Planning your purposeful life
I talk a lot about purposeful living, and why I think it’s the best cure for limerence. In part, that's because limerence often manifests itself during periods of stress, grief, or other big …
Fast track to freedom
Understanding limerence is a pre-requisite for overcoming it. In the process of writing my book, I revisited a lot of the key ideas that I've been blogging about these last three years, and played …
Indecisive LOs
I've recently had a little flurry of correspondence from limerents who are cursed with indecisive limerent objects. These are LOs who give some definite reciprocation but then pull away, or who are …