A really interesting discussion broke out recently in the Surviving Partner Limerence community, about the phenomenon of denial. Some limerents flat out refuse to accept that there is any problem …
How obsessive thoughts develop
One of the most distressing and disruptive symptoms of limerence is the onset of obsessive, intrusive thoughts. The "can't get them out of your head" effect. Early on in the limerence …
Coffeehouse: open thread
It's summer. It's hot. I'm currently on holiday. That means that this month's check in at the LwL virtual coffeehouse is a totally open thread. Catch up and gossip you marvellous people :) …
How thought loops make limerence worse
I've always approached limerence from the perspective of a neuroscientist. I think it's fascinating how the basic mechanisms of the reward and bonding systems can escalate a thrilling and …
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A new site for partners of limerents
One of the great things for me about running living with limerence is that I can write about whatever I like, correspond with lots of different people, and not worry too much about algorithms and …
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What’s coming next at LwL?
Following on from last week's coffeehouse, where I asked for feedback on what to prioritise in the coming months here at living with limerence, this is another quick post, just to set out my thoughts. …
Coffeehouse: summer musings
It's July. It's very hot in the UK. Must be time for a nice steaming cup of coffee. Makes perfect sense I usually try to use the summer break as a chance to catch up and reflect. To think about …
Best book of the year (so far)
I'm away on holiday this week, so just a quick check in with some good news. Smitten has been named one of the best non-fiction books of the year (so far) by Spotify. Obviously, I'm …
Escape from limerence when you can’t go No Contact
This week's video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5uFIpp6Gy0 If you’re trapped in a mental state of limerence—a state of intense romantic infatuation—one of the best ways to recover is to go …
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Should limerents feel guilty about their limerence?
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post Limerence is a wild ride. A giddying, intoxicating, romantic high that takes over your mind and makes one person the absolute focal point of …
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Coffeehouse: musing about limerence
Another month, another visit to LwL virtual coffeehouse. Let's get gossiping Today's conversation starter is a wryly double-meaninged title about muses. It comes from a tweet (still calling …
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How they make you fall in love with them (even if it’s accidental)
Another video this week, all about the habits that makes some people especially addictive. You can also test out the new and improved online assessment to find out How addictive is my limerent …
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