I've written a lot about the experience of limerence from the perspective of the limerent going through it. The impacts of limerence ripple out much further, though. I recently had an email from a …
Is limerence always about pair-bonding?
Berty emailed me with a thought-provoking question about limerence and pair-bonding: I'm still puzzling at the pair-bonding as the only source. It seems too narrow - especially for those of us well …
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Guest post on The Neuroscience of “Affair Fog”
I got in touch with Tim Tedder over at AffairHealing.com a couple of weeks ago after reading an article of his called But My Affair is Different. The parallels with limerence and affair fog were …
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Case study: limerent for an ex
Alice is in a spot of bother. She has been married for nearly ten years, and met her husband after a previous relationship ended. It was kind of a "soft ending" in some respects: We didn't dislike …
Seeking healthy rewards
A central premise of the "limerence as person addiction" concept is that limerence becomes addictive because of the dopamine high. Being with LO is rewarding. Thinking about LO is rewarding. You get a …
Freedom from limerence
A recent comment by long-time friend of the blog, Sharnhorst, has got me thinking. The thrust of his idea is that studying limerence, understanding limerence, and trading anecdotes and wisdom with …
Announcement: Launch of the Emergency Deprogramming Course
May 19th Edit: Paypal payments now enabled. I've mentioned a few times recently that I've been working on a new course to help limerents who find themselves deep in the person-addiction pit and …
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The purposeful living reading list
Reader Samantha got in touch with me a while ago to ask for more information about living a more purposeful life. Specifically, she asked about the books that I would recommend about purposeful living …
When things have got physical
Regular readers have probably spotted by now that I'm anti-infidelity. I cynically take these contrarian positions just to shock The problem with infidelity is the betrayal, of course, and not …
Tipping points in a limerence affair
Here at LwL we're all about the personal responsibility and purposeful living. A guiding principle for managing limerence is that it's happening in your head and so that's where the work needs to be …
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Case study: invited to LO’s wedding
Reader Jane faces a dilemma. Her LO has invited her to his wedding. He's also being weird about it. Before Bride arrived on the scene, Jane disclosed her feelings to LO, hoping that their …
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Men and women
Bit of a diversion from the usual programming today, and the sort of post that requires me to have a "random thoughts" category in the blog menu. And to manage expectations: they're going to get …