It's July. It's very hot in the UK. Must be time for a nice steaming cup of coffee. Makes perfect sense I usually try to use the summer break as a chance to catch up and reflect. To think about …
Best book of the year (so far)
I'm away on holiday this week, so just a quick check in with some good news. Smitten has been named one of the best non-fiction books of the year (so far) by Spotify. Obviously, I'm …
Escape from limerence when you can’t go No Contact
This week's video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5uFIpp6Gy0 If you’re trapped in a mental state of limerence—a state of intense romantic infatuation—one of the best ways to recover is to go …
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Should limerents feel guilty about their limerence?
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post Limerence is a wild ride. A giddying, intoxicating, romantic high that takes over your mind and makes one person the absolute focal point of …
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Coffeehouse: musing about limerence
Another month, another visit to LwL virtual coffeehouse. Let's get gossiping Today's conversation starter is a wryly double-meaninged title about muses. It comes from a tweet (still calling …
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How they make you fall in love with them (even if it’s accidental)
Another video this week, all about the habits that makes some people especially addictive. You can also test out the new and improved online assessment to find out How addictive is my limerent …
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Quiz: is your partner experiencing limerence?
Sometimes life throws awful trials at you. One such trial is the threat of infidelity in a long-term relationship. I occasionally get emails from people who have noticed a change in their …
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Oversharing
Note: This is an updated version of an older blog post. One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming desire to tell your limerent object everything about yourself. Many limerents …
Coffeehouse: parasocial limerence
Another month has passed, meaning it's time for another visit to the LwL virtual coffeehouse. Drink up! To start the conversation this month, I want to talk about something that is coming up in …
Why so many relationships fail
This week's video is all about the conflict between the two tribes and how that can lead to heartache: https://youtu.be/L89OO5hHJhE It’s a sad fact that romantic relationships can fall apart …
Surviving Partner Limerence
Earlier this month, Fenna van den Berg and I launched a new community site for people whose partners have developed limerence for someone outside the relationship. Since then, we’ve been very busy …
How to tell if someone actually finds you attractive
My last YouTube video was stimulated by finding a new paper on how bad people are at judging each others attempts at mindreading romantic and sexual interest. I've written about this topic before, …
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