I've always been rather impressed by the fact that the original text on limerence - Love and Limerence, by Dorothy Tennov - had a cover jacket blurb by Simone de Beauvoir. I mean, talk about bragging …
Skills for a healthy relationship
Many of the relationship problems created by limerence result from a conflict between the wild fantasy ideal that limerence promises and the workaday reality of actually living with another …
Coffeehouse: book update
As I mentioned at the beginning of the year, I'm currently writing a book on limerence, and am now well past the halfway mark and generally happy with progress. I'm working to an end of May …
Case study: polyamory and unwelcome limerence
Today's case study is from Ashley, a reader who is polyamorous and in a polycule with three partners. I'm going to confess at the outset that I find some of the terminology for these new social …
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Signs that your partner doesn’t respect you
In the last post, we discussed the many problems of dealing with limerence in marriage, and the emotional storm that betrayed partners have to contend with. One of the chief difficulties in …
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Dealing with limerence in marriage
One of the commonest situations where limerence becomes a destructive force in life is when it happens within the confines of a marriage. Unsurprisingly, I've written about this scenario many times in …
Limerence in the New York Times
A few weeks ago I had an enjoyable chat with a journalist, Amanda McCracken, who was writing an article about limerence for the New York Times. The article is now out (paywall). It's a good …
Coffeehouse: would you turn off your limerence?
When I first started blogging about limerence, I was careful to talk about the upsides to the condition. I do think limerence adds to life, certainly when you are young and single and looking for …
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Case study: should I wait for my limerent husband to come to his senses?
This week's dilemma is from a reader who is not themselves a limerent, but discovered the phenomenon to her cost when her husband became besotted with another woman: My husband changed personality …
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More on the limerence binary
The last post covered an analysis of whether limerence is a spectrum or a binary - in other words, can you feel "quite limerent", or can people actually be sorted into distinct "limerent" and …
Is limerence binary or a spectrum?
One of the unanswered questions that keeps me occupied in my ongoing investigation of limerence also comes up surprisingly often in my mailbox: Is limerence a specific condition, or is there a …
Winter coffeehouse
It's the end of another year, and quite an eventful one for the Dr L household. Long time readers may have noticed that I tend to get a bit of fire in my belly come New Year, and start outlining …