Following on from last week’s guest post on the history of love research, the central point that “it’s often simply unclear who is talking about what,” captures a lot of the difficulties of …
Guest post: The state of romantic love
One of the headaches of working on limerence is that scholarly research on love suffers from a problem of definitions. Lots of the words we use in everyday life to talk about love have been used (and …
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Why are they so addictive?
Happy New Year to everyone at LwL! Here's my latest video on what makes some people especially addictive. Enjoy! https://youtu.be/VpKXmZx7-1s?si=LdAoKl36qCqYTWFX …
Coffeehouse: Limerence in The Holiday
Happy Christmas LwL peeps! This seasonal trip to the virtual coffeehouse was inspired by Onyx, who emailed to suggest that the relationship between Iris and Jasper in the romantic comedy "The …
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The pain of long-term limerence
I generally talk about limerence as runaway reward seeking—as person addiction in the sense of chasing the intoxicating high of the limerent object. Gimme gimme gimme That’s definitely the route …
How addictive is your LO?
One of the key principles for recovery from limerence here at LwL is: limerence is happening in your head. I stick by that principle, as it's both true and useful. Nobody else can fix the …
The biggest limerence problems, reviewed
Back in the summer I asked the LwL community about the biggest problems that limerents face. It's taken me a while to go through them, but I've finally got around the compiling all the questions …
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Coffeehouse: you probably don’t have a personality disorder
How's that for an arresting welcome to the LwL virtual coffeehouse? Hi. I've got something important to tell you. David, author of the Wikipedia page on limerence, emailed me recently about a …
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Limerence, obsessive love, and stalking
I recently came across a new academic paper about limerence, titled: Limerence, Hidden Obsession, Fixation, and Rumination: A Scoping Review of Human Behaviour In it, the authors argue that …
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Why is it so hard to stop wanting someone?
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post. Limerence usually begins as an extraordinary emotional eruption. Early on, the giddy infatuation is glorious - enlivening, elating, …
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Maturing out of addictions
I sometimes try to imagine what early love feels like for non-limerents. One of the tragedies of the two tribes, is that we each make assumptions about what the other is thinking or feeling based …
Limerence Q&A
Here's a recent Q&A I did for the channel Mental Wealth. All things limerence discussed and analysed. Enjoy! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIREmFsE5hk …