Limerent reverie - daydreaming and fantasising about consummation with your limerent object - is a habit that almost all limerents indulge in. It is a private pleasure, a secret source of reward, a …
Limerence limbo
Note: this is an updated version of an older post. One of the most disruptive mental traps linked to limerence is the state of indefinite tension best described as limerence limbo. We are …
How to get over an office crush
When you put a group of attractive people together, in an environment where they work closely on collaborative projects, they sometimes fall in love with each other by accident. This could be great …
Coffeehouse: the search for meaning
Time for another general discussion post; a place for all the chit chat that might arise in a congenial coffee house full of limerents. Cheers! For a starting topic of conversation, I've been …
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On jealousy
Following on from last week's case study, and discussions of infidelity and polyamory in the comments, here's an interesting video about …
Keeping secrets
One of the best ways to understand limerence is as an altered state of mind that constitutes addiction to another person. There is a solid basis to this claim, given what's known about the …
Case study: I resent my husband’s limerent object
Today's case study comes from Ann, who is understandably upset about the situation she finds herself in. My husband of twelve years has been going through what I thought was a midlife crisis for …
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Coffeehouse: the big barriers to limerence recovery
Time for another visit to the virtual coffeehouse, to put the world to rights and engage in a bit of light hearted banter with friends. Today's topic for conversation is limerence recovery. From …
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Coping with betrayal
Some of the most distressing messages I get are from people who have been betrayed by a partner who has become limerent for someone else. I've written about this topic several times in the past, …
Busy, busy, busy
Like many people in the current era, my life is very busy. One of the reasons is that I am much better at taking on new jobs than finishing old ones. The jobs I'm currently juggling have a wide range …
Coffeehouse: it’s all in the eyes
Time for another topic of conversation in the coffeehouse. Smooth and stimulating A few days ago I had an email from Reuben who asked about the importance of eye contact in initiating limerence. …
Friendship after limerence
A couple of days ago, Oldtimer jumped into the comments section of an old post about the implausibility of being friends with an LO. The comment was thought-provoking: I have come back to say that …