Another month has passed, meaning it's time for another visit to the LwL virtual coffeehouse. Drink up! To start the conversation this month, I want to talk about something that is coming up in …
Why so many relationships fail
This week's video is all about the conflict between the two tribes and how that can lead to heartache: https://youtu.be/L89OO5hHJhE It’s a sad fact that romantic relationships can fall apart …
Surviving Partner Limerence
Earlier this month, Fenna van den Berg and I launched a new community site for people whose partners have developed limerence for someone outside the relationship. Since then, we’ve been very busy …
How to tell if someone actually finds you attractive
My last YouTube video was stimulated by finding a new paper on how bad people are at judging each others attempts at mindreading romantic and sexual interest. I've written about this topic before, …
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Coffeehouse: love is not blind
Another month rolls around, and brings another visit to the LwL virtual coffeehouse endless thread. I'll never tire of the stimulation To kick off the discussions this month, here's an …
Life as a limerent: autopilot mode
Note: this is a revised and updated version of a previous post. One of the most disruptive aspects of limerence is the total attention-capture that sets in. At first, most limerents are OK with …
Launch of partner’s community
For a few weeks now, I've been trailing the launch of a new online community specifically tailored to the partners of people who have become limerent for someone else, putting their marriage or …
Why you can’t stop wanting them
A back-to-basics video this week on why limerence happens and is so hard to escape: https://youtu.be/XbJ-JsYFtMk?si=tQEyIoP-f4wDRorZ Does love sometimes feel overpowering? Like you’ve been …
Coffeehouse: Anyone for tango?
Another month, another visit to the LwL virtual coffeehouse. Slurp This week there’s an unexpected topic for conversation. I had an email from a reader who is also a keen tango dancer, and fan …
Reasons why limerence affairs don’t last
If your long-term partner develops limerence for someone else, it can be disastrous. By definition, limerents are not in their right mind, and many can instinctively follow their emotions through …
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Could Ozempic “cure” limerence?
That might seem like a clickbait title, but it’s actually a serious question. Although limerence is not a disease to be cured, it can certainly have a negative impact on life. I often get asked …
Even worse than unrequited love
https://youtu.be/kPYHsFbLLKs Unrequited love is awful. Desperately longing for someone who doesn’t feel the same way is a hopeless, demoralising state. But there’s something even …