Life, love, and limerence
Sammy got in touch with a great suggestion for a post topic: Dorothy Tennov writes in her book that limerents often feel betrayed by their LOs (presumably after things have gone south). If you or …
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Limerence has different effects on you at different points in your life. It's one thing for a young adult experiencing the mania for the first time and free to immerse themselves in romantic …
Happy New Year, folks. I always look on the start of a new year as a time for renewal, and that seems especially true this year, given the horror show that was 2020. We're not out of trouble …
Well, another Christmas has rolled around, and I'm busy counting my blessings and reflecting on a rough year for everyone. With all the restrictions in place in the UK, it's a less sociable Christmas …
Limerence offers some serious life lessons. It a good idea to learn from them. When limerence arrives unexpectedly - when you weren't actively seeking romance - it can be a bit of a shock. …
I often receive requests to recommend a therapist or coach who is expert in limerence. Not knowing any, I struggle to help. I also receive comments from folks who have talked to their …
We talk a lot here at LwL about the gulf between intellectual acceptance that a limerent episode should end, and the emotional willingness to walk away. Many limerents come to the point of surveying …
One of the cornerstones of purposeful living is having a clear understanding of your own goals and motivations. This principle might sound self-centred, but it needn't be - your purpose could be …
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Limerence upends life. Whatever your situation when a new LO appears in your world, everything changes. The disruption is probably most severe if the limerent is already in a long-term …
That's the title of this interesting TedX talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-seMFHOxZhI I have some issues with the neuroscience, but the speaker (Dessa) is great, and it's a story that …
Limerence feels bloody amazing. I'm several years out from my last limerence episode, and this distance can sometimes be a benefit, but it's also a limitation. It makes it easier to analyse the …
A good discussion broke out in the comments a few weeks ago about obligation. Scharnhorst argued that obligation is one of the most powerful forces that directs our behaviour - more so than fear, …
