Welcome to living with limerence. If you are:
- Infatuated with someone you don’t want to be infatuated with
- Beginning to realise that “a crush” shouldn’t be this overwhelming
- Bombarded by intrusive thoughts and unable to concentrate on anything other than Them
- Distressed, because you love your partner but have become obsessed with someone else
- Worried that your partner is infatuated with someone else
- Finding it hard to get through to them how much harm they are causing
- Baffled by their apparent personality transplant (and rewriting of history)
Then this site can help.
For Struggling Limerents: to download a free e-book on how to take control of your fate and master limerence (in ten steps): click here
Its purpose is to help people understand what limerence is, how it affects us psychologically and emotionally, and to devise practical ways to master it and integrate into life in a more healthy way. But I’ll probably ramble on about other stuff too.
My motivations for starting this site were my own unexpected re-experience of limerence after a long period of contented life as a husband, and the discovery that few sources of practical information or support existed (even in today’s world) for coping with it.
I blog pseudonymously as Dr L (to protect the innocent, and because it lets me be more frank), but by training I am a neuroscientist, so the main theme is understanding what’s going on in our traitor brains, and how to reprogram ourselves into leading more purposeful lives.
So, read on! I hope that whatever you find here can help if you are suffering, or educate if you are merely curious.