Very busy week for me this week, but here’s a video on limerence, with lot of good insights:
I particularly enjoyed the sections on being more aware of what role the limerent object is playing in your life – and how you have pushed them into that role for your own emotional needs – and the section on radical honesty as a method for reducing limerent idealisation.
The concept that expressing gratitude for what LO has actually done for you is really important. It’s both a way of limiting your appreciation to their real actions (rather than extrapolating it into evidence of what a wonderful person they are), and also an effective way of revealing the times when they haven’t actually done much, but you have blown it up in your head into a big emotional drama.
Similarly, using radical honesty to not hold onto resentments for real or imagined slights is also good for overcoming obsessive rumination.
All very purposeful suggestions, and she also has excellent taste in literature. 😉