Life, love, and limerence
One of the most psychologically interesting (and disconcerting) features of romantic life is the mismatch between what we think we want and what we actually desire. Few things illustrate this more …
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Another check in at the LwL coffeehouse. It's fun to sometimes speculate about the kinds of people who make for dodgy limerent objects. It's also useful to adopt a more mocking or cynical view …
As an episode of limerence progresses, there is a notable shift in the nature of the experience. Early on, the giddy infatuation is glorious - enlivening, elating, euphoric. Later, the emotional …
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Obsession comes in different forms. Sometimes we can become fixated on a fear, or a memory, or a vice, which captures our attention so completely that our thoughts become a prison. Other times, we …
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One of the difficulties in understanding and overcoming limerence is the problem of clearly understanding what it is. Part of the reason that this is so challenging is that love and romance is an area …
Many people get hung up on their first love. Sometimes it's OK - just a pang of nostalgic longing for a timeless romance that you miss. Other times it can be much more of a problem. It can seem like …
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