I recently received an email from a reader with a familiar problem. During therapy, she had discussed how limerence was disrupting her life, and received the following advice from her …
On beauty
On holiday this week, so today's post is a repost from the olden days of the site (2017). I'm still fascinated by the neuroscience of beauty, and why our LOs become so dazzling during limerence. The …
Is your limerent object a narcissist?
One of the recurrent themes that comes up when trying to make sense of a difficult limerent object, is the concept of narcissism. It's quite satisfying if you've been ensnared by a self-centered …
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Why do I become obsessed with certain people?
One of the most psychologically interesting (and disconcerting) features of romantic life is the mismatch between what we think we want and what we actually desire. Few things illustrate this more …
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Coffeehouse: dark empaths
Another check in at the LwL coffeehouse. It's fun to sometimes speculate about the kinds of people who make for dodgy limerent objects. It's also useful to adopt a more mocking or cynical view …
Why is it so hard to stop wanting someone?
As an episode of limerence progresses, there is a notable shift in the nature of the experience. Early on, the giddy infatuation is glorious - enlivening, elating, euphoric. Later, the emotional …
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