I generally talk about limerence as runaway reward seeking—as person addiction in the sense of chasing the intoxicating high of the limerent object. Gimme gimme gimme That’s definitely the route …
How addictive is your LO?
One of the key principles for recovery from limerence here at LwL is: limerence is happening in your head. I stick by that principle, as it's both true and useful. Nobody else can fix the …
Why is it so hard to stop wanting someone?
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post. Limerence usually begins as an extraordinary emotional eruption. Early on, the giddy infatuation is glorious - enlivening, elating, …
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Maturing out of addictions
I sometimes try to imagine what early love feels like for non-limerents. One of the tragedies of the two tribes, is that we each make assumptions about what the other is thinking or feeling based …
Limerence and maladaptive daydreaming
Psychology is littered with attempts to describe a common source of distress, and define it as a specific condition, syndrome or disorder. Limerence is a great example of this principle. For …
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Misperception of romantic interest
Hope is a big part of limerence. Hope that a romantic relationship might be possible. Hope that they might feel the same way about you. Hope that you might get to experience the ecstatic …