A defining feature of limerence is emotional instability - someone else seems to have control over your mood. When they are happy, you are euphoric; when they are unhappy, you are anxious and …
Case study: I want him to be limerent for me
Most of the correspondence I receive falls into one of two popular categories: "I'm limerent but don't want to be" or "My spouse is limerent for someone else, what do I do?" Every now and again, …
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Why is limerence so addictive?
I recently received an email from a reader with a familiar problem. During therapy, she had discussed how limerence was disrupting her life, and received the following advice from her …
On beauty
On holiday this week, so today's post is a repost from the olden days of the site (2017). I'm still fascinated by the neuroscience of beauty, and why our LOs become so dazzling during limerence. The …
Is your limerent object a narcissist?
One of the recurrent themes that comes up when trying to make sense of a difficult limerent object, is the concept of narcissism. It's quite satisfying if you've been ensnared by a self-centered …
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Why do I become obsessed with certain people?
One of the most psychologically interesting (and disconcerting) features of romantic life is the mismatch between what we think we want and what we actually desire. Few things illustrate this more …
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