Becoming more self-aware is a core skill for recovering from limerence. The ability to detach your self-scrutiny from your moment-to-moment emotional state allows you to be more aware of what you are …
Case study: ghosted by LO
Reader G got in touch about a speed bump on her road to recovery: I have a question - you talk a lot about the importance of going no-contact to get over Limerence, but what if LO is the one to …
Fast track to freedom
Understanding limerence is a pre-requisite for overcoming it. In the process of writing my book, I revisited a lot of the key ideas that I've been blogging about these last three years, and played …
Why do they seem so special?
Idealisation is a big part of limerence. It’s also a big part of the ‘object’ bit of limerent object. We elevate these mysterious people who walk among us into paragons - impossible romantic ideals. …
The psychological appeal of giving in
There is something strangely seductive about surrendering your will to a craving. Even when you know it's bad for you, you yield to the compulsion. When the opportunity to indulge presents itself, you …
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Indecisive LOs
I've recently had a little flurry of correspondence from limerents who are cursed with indecisive limerent objects. These are LOs who give some definite reciprocation but then pull away, or who are …