One of the commonest ways of interpreting limerence is to view it through the lens of attachment theory. This obviously makes good sense, because limerence is clearly a mental state focused to an …
Why can’t I get over my crush?
Sometimes a crush can become so powerful that it dominates your life. If you just can't get them out of your head, can't free yourself from their magnetic attraction, and just aren't able to move on, …
Playing with fire
It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone new, the neurochemical high from early limerence is …
How long will my limerence last?
The average duration of a limerent episode is between 18 months and 3 years. That estimate comes from Tennov's book, and was based on interviews with hundreds of people struggling with …
Case study: I miss the high
A case study about the long term implications of living with limerence, today. J contacted me with a couple of questions, and an observation about life two years after her last limerence episode …
The need for change
Limerence offers some serious life lessons. It a good idea to learn from them. When limerence arrives unexpectedly - when you weren't actively seeking romance - it can be a bit of a shock. …