I've talked before about the loneliness of limerence. The isolation associated with limerence comes in large part from feeling that it shouldn't be happening, and that it's a shameful secret that the …
How long does limerence last?
A question I very commonly receive by email (from both limerents, and the affected spouses of limerents) is: "how long is this going to last?" I wish I could give an answer. The reality, of …
Barriers and uncertainty
Following on from last week's post, I've been wondering about the circumstances and conditions that can push limerence into a descending spiral of addictive misery. It certainly seems to be true that …
The definition of limerence
I've been thinking again about what limerence is. We have a fairly well-established list of common symptoms, and so limerence is most easily defined as "having enough of those symptoms to qualify". …
Case study: Limerence for a therapist
Reader Amy got in touch with a query: What if you end up having Limerence for your therapist? Specifically a trauma therapist who is supposedly trained in attachment issues? Is attachment to a …
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When does limerence become an emotional affair?
In a recent conversation I was asked: How is limerence different from an emotional affair? The person asking was a non-limerent. My first reaction was befuddlement. I mean, obviously limerence …
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