Here's a provocative and stimulating video about sexual conflict in humans: https://youtu.be/mu4Uki8VyLc I have to confess that my first reaction to the talk was scepticism, for two reasons. …
Case study: I’m unhappy in my relationship. Should I keep trying?
One of the consequences of unwanted limerence is that it forces you to face some important problems. Counterintuitively, limerence often erupts when life has been coasting along pretty well - but the …
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What does limerence mean for a marriage?
One of the most destructive forms of limerence is when a married person becomes limerent for someone else. There is an abundance of pain to go around: most obviously for the innocent spouse, but also …
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Chemistry versus compatibility: how to choose a partner
One of the biggest difficulties in romantic relationships is the conflict between two necessary factors: chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the visceral excitement of desire - the sparky, …
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Limerence for unhealthy people
From time to time, I hear from people who repeatedly become limerent for individuals who are unavailable, unreliable, or just generally have bad character. Their limerent objects are unhealthy to bond …
Who are you attracted to?
I've written a few posts about what makes someone unusually attractive, why some people seem so addictive, and what kind of people are good at provoking infatuation - what makes them, in short, …