A previous post riffed off a podcast by Joe Beam about limerence affairs, and the phases that they pass through. It seems to be a post that resonated with a lot of readers, and to judge from my inbox …
Limerence and insecurity
I spend a goodly amount of time here at LwL trying to understand the factors that make limerence more or less likely to occur. There are some repeating themes - intermittent reward, uncertainty, …
A video on purposeful living
Well, sorta. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9AThycGCakk As a general principle, listening to other people who have achieved something noteworthy is a shrewd way to learn something useful. …
Case study: spiritually reinforcing limerence
I recently heard from John, a reader whose wife has become limerent for someone else, but with an unusual twist that I hadn't come across before. First off, John has clearly been reading carefully as …
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Getting through to limerent spouses
Some of the most upsetting emails that arrive in my inbox are from spouses who have had their marriage collapse from under them because their husband or wife has become limerent for someone else. At …
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Spotting trouble: LOs to avoid
A guiding principle of this site is that limerence is a psychological trait that a certain fraction of humankind has, and not a pathology or defect to be exterminated. The best approach to limerence, …