Note: this is an updated version of an earlier post It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone …
Questions to ask if you are married but limerent for someone else
This week's video is about that most painful of limerent situations: what to do if you are married but limerent for someone else. https://youtu.be/kX-DkQPwucU?si=HEk5QkCoKgNNRDX8 It breaks …
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The links between limerence and anxious attachment
One of the most striking observations in the study of limerence is the link to anxious attachment. My attempt to estimate the prevalence of limerence in the general population suggests that 50-60% of …
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Emotional versus physical affairs
The stimulus for this post is another nugget of wisdom from the coffeehouse. Adam raised the following issue: I could forgive my wife much easier for an emotional affair than a sexual one, even if …
New project: dealing with limerence in marriage
I've been blogging recently about the impact of limerence on long-term relationships, and the devastating effect it can have on a marriage. It's been sobering to read accounts of the effect of …
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Is polyamory a solution for limerence?
Unexpected limerence in a marriage is tough. There are several reasons why married limerents might become vulnerable to the allure of a new limerent object. It's easy to slip into a state of benign …
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