I'm away on holiday at the moment, but following on from Owen's case study last week, here's an interesting video from the School of Life about how to choose a partner …
Evolutionary traps for limerents
From time to time, the topic of monogamy and human mating strategies comes up in discussions about limerence. Obviously mating behaviour will have a big bearing on limerence, and I've argued …
Playing with fire
Note: this is an updated version of an earlier post It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone …
Questions to ask if you are married but limerent for someone else
This week's video is about that most painful of limerent situations: what to do if you are married but limerent for someone else. https://youtu.be/kX-DkQPwucU?si=HEk5QkCoKgNNRDX8 It breaks …
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The links between limerence and anxious attachment
One of the most striking observations in the study of limerence is the link to anxious attachment. My attempt to estimate the prevalence of limerence in the general population suggests that 50-60% of …
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Emotional versus physical affairs
The stimulus for this post is another nugget of wisdom from the coffeehouse. Adam raised the following issue: I could forgive my wife much easier for an emotional affair than a sexual one, even if …