The stimulus for this post is another nugget of wisdom from the coffeehouse. Adam raised the following issue: I could forgive my wife much easier for an emotional affair than a sexual one, even if …
New project: dealing with limerence in marriage
I've been blogging recently about the impact of limerence on long-term relationships, and the devastating effect it can have on a marriage. It's been sobering to read accounts of the effect of …
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Is polyamory a solution for limerence?
Unexpected limerence in a marriage is tough. There are several reasons why married limerents might become vulnerable to the allure of a new limerent object. It's easy to slip into a state of benign …
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Can a marriage recover from limerence?
I've written many times about the impact on a marriage of developing limerence for someone new. It's an existential threat under the worst conditions, and a serious hardship even in the best-managed …
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The two tribes
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post In her landmark book, Love and Limerence, Dorothy Tennov describes how she finally formulated the concept of limerence on a long haul flight with …
Case study: Nothing works…
Clara is a midlifer who - in a story familiar to regular readers - fell unexpectedly into limerence for a co-worker. Swept away by emotion, she started an affair. "I knew it was wrong but thought …