There's nothing like falling in love. The world fills with colour, life is full of promise and possibility, your mood dances a jig, and your body fizzes with excitement and euphoria. Heady …
Case study: I don’t want to devalue my limerent object
Rachel got in touch recently about a scenario that is very difficult to cope with - not difficult because of any grand drama, or threats to life and limb, but because there is no simple escape from …
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Sources of conflict
Here's a provocative and stimulating video about sexual conflict in humans: https://youtu.be/mu4Uki8VyLc I have to confess that my first reaction to the talk was scepticism, for two reasons. …
Case study: I’m unhappy in my relationship. Should I keep trying?
One of the consequences of unwanted limerence is that it forces you to face some important problems. Counterintuitively, limerence often erupts when life has been coasting along pretty well - but the …
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What does limerence mean for a marriage?
One of the most destructive forms of limerence is when a married person becomes limerent for someone else. There is an abundance of pain to go around: most obviously for the innocent spouse, but also …
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Chemistry versus compatibility: how to choose a partner
One of the biggest difficulties in romantic relationships is the conflict between two necessary factors: chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the visceral excitement of desire - the sparky, …
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