Back in the pre-event era of last summer, reader Evie got in touch to ask what the hell had happened to her husband. Said husband had become limerent for a co-worker and gone full devaluation hulk-out …
Indecisive LOs
I've recently had a little flurry of correspondence from limerents who are cursed with indecisive limerent objects. These are LOs who give some definite reciprocation but then pull away, or who are …
Why am I so down on limerence?
A recent flurry of comments raised the issue of whether limerence is a good or bad thing, and why I generally blog from the perspective of "limerence recovery", rather than being more positive and …
Why wasn’t I good enough for them?
Limerent objects are sticky. Yuck! When deciding to go No Contact, most limerents soon discover that detaching themselves from LO is harder than expected. LOs are good at pulling you back. You …
Case study: a pushy LO
It's been a while since we got specific about a personal limerence dilemma, so this week I thought it would be good to tackle another case study. Elle got in touch with me (via a temporary gmail …
Case study: limerence as a barrier to taking the first step
Ulysses is battling limerence. In his case, limerence is proving a barrier to the natural expression of his feelings: I've been struggling to get close enough of my LO to disclose my feelings to …
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