Clara is a midlifer who - in a story familiar to regular readers - fell unexpectedly into limerence for a co-worker. Swept away by emotion, she started an affair. "I knew it was wrong but thought …
Case study: polyamory and unwelcome limerence
Today's case study is from Ashley, a reader who is polyamorous and in a polycule with three partners. I'm going to confess at the outset that I find some of the terminology for these new social …
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Dealing with limerence in marriage
One of the commonest situations where limerence becomes a destructive force in life is when it happens within the confines of a marriage. Unsurprisingly, I've written about this scenario many times in …
Case study: should I wait for my limerent husband to come to his senses?
This week's dilemma is from a reader who is not themselves a limerent, but discovered the phenomenon to her cost when her husband became besotted with another woman: My husband changed personality …
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Holiday limerence
Anniversaries are a perilous time for limerence. Significant dates hold a surprising amount of psychological weight, and tend to sharpen already brittle emotions. The cultural expectations of …
Incompatible limerent objects
One of the recurring themes of the blog is the tension that often exists between limerence and long-term love. Sometimes, when the stars align, limerence can transition into the kind of affectional …