Following on from the last post on guilt, another aspect of limerence that I haven't much covered in the blog so far is the loneliness. They're linked, of course, because limerence is a guilty secret …
Rationalisation
A treacherous tendency of the limerent brain, of which we must all be wary, is rationalisation. This takes the form of self-justifications for why interactions with LO are necessary (when they …
Help! My partner is limerent for someone else
One of the hardest aspects of limerence to live with is developing limerence when in long-term relationship. If it's hard for the limerent, it's even worse for the significant other. If you are the …
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Limerence and sex
From the time it was first defined, limerence has been closely associated with sexual desire. LO is wanted as a sexual partner, rather than an intimate friend or companion. [Aside - it would be …
Limerence and the friendzone
We've all been there. Limerence is nucleating, and you are getting the euphoric thrill of connection with a new person. They are rapidly becoming your LO, and you are trying to gauge the degree of …
The two tribes
In her landmark book, Dorothy Tennov described how she had crystallised the concept of limerence around an interaction with a friend (who she liked and admired) on a plane journey, in which she came …