Some of the most distressing messages I get are from people who have been betrayed by a partner who has become limerent for someone else. I've written about this topic several times in the past, …
Catalogue shopping for online love
One of the biggest changes in the world of romance that has happened over the course of my life is the rise of online dating. My youth wasn't just pre-Tinder, it was pre-internet. That makes it …
Courage and limerence
Regular commenter Marcia raised an interesting question in the comments section from the last post, about being hesitant to try new *ahem* adventures. I always wondered if it was my fear talking. …
Why is monogamy so hard?
In the last post I laid out a case for why monogamy exists. It provoked some sturdy objections in the comments, and some good discussion as to whether the arguments were flawed. This week the goal …
Does limerence cause affairs?
I receive a lot of emails from limerents and partners of limerents who are embroiled in the emotional wreckage of an affair. A common lament is that the personality of the cheater seems to have …
Case study: stalked by LO
The consequences of a limerence episode can last longer than we want. Jasmine got in touch recently, regarding a problem that has no easy solution. Her LO is stalking her. The knee-jerk …