One of the defining features of limerence is the soul-aching desire to be close to your limerent object. That’s because limerence is a drive to form a pair bond - in order to make babies, propagate …
Coffeehouse: the influence of environment
Another visit to the open thread that is the LwL coffeehouse, where any topic for conversation is welcome. Silky smooth Today's ice-breaker topic is how the environment you're in can influence …
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Internal versus external drivers of limerence
One of the core principles for limerence recovery here at LwL is that limerence is happening in your head. At the most fundamental level, limerence is a consequence of neurochemistry - it's an altered …
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Coffeehouse: signs you’re not over them
Time for another open thread for discussions about all things limerence. This week's opening topic is prompted by Mila's comment in the last coffeehouse post: Signs that you haven’t completely …
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Can a marriage recover from limerence?
I've written many times about the impact on a marriage of developing limerence for someone new. It's an existential threat under the worst conditions, and a serious hardship even in the best-managed …
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Coffeehouse: limerence bootcamp
Another visit to the LwL coffeehouse. 'sup For newcomers, the purpose of these posts is to provide a forum for general chit chat for members of the LwL community who want to catch up and talk …