I've talked before about the loneliness of limerence. The isolation associated with limerence comes in large part from feeling that it shouldn't be happening, and that it's a shameful secret that the …
How long does limerence last?
A question I very commonly receive by email (from both limerents, and the affected spouses of limerents) is: "how long is this going to last?" I wish I could give an answer. The reality, of …
Case study: Limerence for a therapist
Reader Amy got in touch with a query: What if you end up having Limerence for your therapist? Specifically a trauma therapist who is supposedly trained in attachment issues? Is attachment to a …
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Limerence dreams
A defining feature of limerence is persistent, intrusive thoughts about LO. And it doesn't even let up when you are asleep. Frequent dreams about LO are very common, and can be quite informative. Now, …
Getting through the aftermath of No Contact
When limerence is a problem in life, and when an individual limerent decides to take charge of themselves and go no contact, they then face a trial of self-discipline. If this scenario applies to …
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Deprogramming the limerent brain
Time usually resolves limerence, but sometimes we limerents impatiently wonder, where's the damn off switch? Now some people are resistant to the very idea of reducing love to a biochemical process …