It's not easy to get rid of limerence, but there are some tactics that can turn down the volume on the emotional overwhelm, and help you take back control of your life. Here are four of the …
Good LOs
Some limerents have to battle with limerent objects that are bad for them. Maybe their LO is narcissistic, maybe they are flaky, or maybe they are unavailable but nevertheless keep playing with the …
Case study: LO wanted my friend
There are lots of obstacles along the road to recovery from limerence. Here at LwL we advocate for an internal focus for responding to unwanted limerence: it's happening in our heads, we can't control …
LOs who won’t let go
In the last post we analysed closure, and why it's an illusion. Seeking closure is one of the commonest excuses that limerents give for why they need to stay friends with their LOs. Their …
Closure is an illusion
Uncertainty is central to limerence. It fuels the rumination that drives it (do they like me too? What did that comment mean? How would they respond to my disclosure?), and creates the intermittent …
Limerence and insecurity
I spend a goodly amount of time here at LwL trying to understand the factors that make limerence more or less likely to occur. There are some repeating themes - intermittent reward, uncertainty, …