Note: This is an updated version of an older blog post. One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming desire to tell your limerent object everything about yourself. Many limerents …
How long will my limerence last?
The average duration of a limerent episode is between 18 months and 3 years. That estimate comes from Tennov's book, and was based on interviews with hundreds of people struggling with …
The psychology of limerent Idealisation
One of the defining features of limerence is the tendency to idealise your limerent object. You see them as Special with a capital S, different from ordinary people, extraordinary in their …
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Are you a different person during limerence?
I've previously described limerence as an altered mental state that changes your perception, and makes you behave in ways that you wouldn't normally behave. That raises an uncomfortable question. …
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The psychological appeal of giving in
There is something strangely seductive about surrendering your will to a craving. Even when you know it's bad for you, you yield to the compulsion. When the opportunity to indulge presents itself, you …
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Why wasn’t I good enough for them?
Limerent objects are sticky. Yuck! When deciding to go No Contact, most limerents soon discover that detaching themselves from LO is harder than expected. LOs are good at pulling you back. You …