Note: this is an updated version of a previous post Midlife is an interesting time. It begins to dawn on you that whatever endeavours you threw yourself into in early adulthood are coming to …
Playing with fire
It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone new, the neurochemical high from early limerence is …
On forgiveness
One of the topics that comes up frequently in discussions about limerence recovery, is the issue of guilt. Sometimes arguments about guilt focus on assigning blame, or what constitutes a moral …
The morality of limerence
There's a lot of moral philosophising going on at the moment, so naturally I thought I should have a go. What could possibly go wrong? The stimulus for this particular topic is the coincidence …
Case study update: karma edition
Back in the pre-event era of last summer, reader Evie got in touch to ask what the hell had happened to her husband. Said husband had become limerent for a co-worker and gone full devaluation hulk-out …
If I only knew…
My last few posts have focussed on the issue of closure and how limerents can be bad at handling uncertainty. The principle cause of this difficulty is the deep, desperate ache to know whether or not …