One of the key principles for recovery from limerence here at LwL is: limerence is happening in your head. I stick by that principle, as it's both true and useful. Nobody else can fix the …
The biggest limerence problems, reviewed
Back in the summer I asked the LwL community about the biggest problems that limerents face. It's taken me a while to go through them, but I've finally got around the compiling all the questions …
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Coffeehouse: you probably don’t have a personality disorder
How's that for an arresting welcome to the LwL virtual coffeehouse? Hi. I've got something important to tell you. David, author of the Wikipedia page on limerence, emailed me recently about a …
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Limerence, obsessive love, and stalking
I recently came across a new academic paper about limerence, titled: Limerence, Hidden Obsession, Fixation, and Rumination: A Scoping Review of Human Behaviour In it, the authors argue that …
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Why is it so hard to stop wanting someone?
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post. Limerence usually begins as an extraordinary emotional eruption. Early on, the giddy infatuation is glorious - enlivening, elating, …
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Maturing out of addictions
I sometimes try to imagine what early love feels like for non-limerents. One of the tragedies of the two tribes, is that we each make assumptions about what the other is thinking or feeling based …
Limerence Q&A
Here's a recent Q&A I did for the channel Mental Wealth. All things limerence discussed and analysed. Enjoy! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIREmFsE5hk …
Coffeehouse: open house
It's been a while since the last check in at the LwL virtual coffeehouse. Now with completely convincing decor and customers just like you'd see in real life Normally, I'd kick things off with …
Dealing with limerence guilt
There are many painful aspects to being trapped in limerence. Once the thrills of euphoria have given way to the lows of person addiction, you have all the negative consequences of cravings, …
Unmasking Narcissism
A couple of weeks ago, I had a really interesting chat with Sarah Khan on her Unmasking Narcissism channel. We talked about limerence, trauma bonding, narcissism, healthy love, and how they all …
On not knowing what you want
Note: this is an updated version of an older post. Limerence upends life. Whatever your situation when a new LO appears in your world, everything changes. The disruption is probably …
A new way to look at love
Here's a recording of the talk I gave a couple of weeks ago in Harrogate, to a general audience who were not necessarily familiar with the concept of limerence. It's a rehearsal, so not as slick or …