Some of the most distressing messages I get are from people who have been betrayed by a partner who has become limerent for someone else. I've written about this topic several times in the past, …
Busy, busy, busy
Like many people in the current era, my life is very busy. One of the reasons is that I am much better at taking on new jobs than finishing old ones. The jobs I'm currently juggling have a wide range …
Coffeehouse: it’s all in the eyes
Time for another topic of conversation in the coffeehouse. Smooth and stimulating A few days ago I had an email from Reuben who asked about the importance of eye contact in initiating limerence. …
Friendship after limerence
A couple of days ago, Oldtimer jumped into the comments section of an old post about the implausibility of being friends with an LO. The comment was thought-provoking: I have come back to say that …
Incompatible limerent objects
One of the recurring themes of the blog is the tension that often exists between limerence and long-term love. Sometimes, when the stars align, limerence can transition into the kind of affectional …
Taking action to improve your life
At the start of the year, I began a series of posts on the elements of purposeful living. It's turned out to be an eventful year for me, and not gone the way I planned, but as summer comes to an end …
Coffeehouse: managing competing demands
Long time readers of the blog will have noticed that I periodically reflect on how to best manage the site, given the multiple roles it plays. This is another of those posts. First, I want Living …
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The overselling of pop neuroscience
Last week, Limerent Emeritus drew my attention to a thought-provoking article in the Washington Post about a how some self-help books "express great confidence in theories of the brain that are still …
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How to make decisions
The last post was all about the need to be decisive when living a purposeful life, but, like many aspects of self development, it is easier said than done. Part of the reason is that we all have …
How indecision worsens limerence
A question that commonly comes up after people discover the concept of limerence is: can I have the good without the bad? I'm having it and eating it, so there The euphoria of early limerence …
What is within your control?
A defining feature of limerence is emotional instability - someone else seems to have control over your mood. When they are happy, you are euphoric; when they are unhappy, you are anxious and …
The need for courage
In the last post I covered how limerence can be the trigger for renewal, and a starting point for transforming life for the better. While this is an optimistic perspective, there is an unfortunate - …