One of the defining features of limerence is the soul-aching desire to be close to your limerent object. That’s because limerence is a drive to form a pair bond - in order to make babies, propagate …
Why do workplace crushes happen?
Workplace crushes are very common. In the past, before the advent of dating apps and social media, workplace relationships were also very common. Many people met their future spouse through work, or …
Coffeehouse: social media
Another visit to the virtual coffee house at LwL, this time with a very definite agenda on my part. Welcome, welcome! All the while that I was writing this blog pseudonymously as Dr L, I didn’t …
R.I.P. Helen Fisher
Helen Fisher, one of the most influential writers and researchers in the field of love, died at the end of August. It’s taken me a while to hear the news. There are some good obituaries that focus …
The madness of limerence
In the last post I made the case for limerence causing a collapse of self-discipline, which I termed "appetite supremacy", and outlined some of the bad consequences that can follow. They are pretty …
Calling all London limerents
Hi Folks. Now I'm out as myself, I'm starting to do some in-person events. The first one is in London on October 17th: If you've ever fancied spending an evening discussing love, and can …
Why limerents behave irresponsibly
In last week's open thread, I mentioned a phenomenon that affected me during limerence, when I could feel my sense of responsibility ebbing away during contact with my limerent object. As I described …
Coffeehouse: open thread
It's been a busy week for me this week, and one of those times where I've abortively started two or three possible posts, but somehow not quite got all the ducks in a row. Sometimes the ideas just …
Dodgy limerent objects
At various times over the years, I've written about the difficulties presented by becoming limerent for certain types of people. The dodgy LOs. The characters that make it hard to get over a limerence …
A new limerence research project
From time to time I'm contacted by researchers who are taking an interest in limerence and embarking on new research to investigate the phenomenon. This is a welcome development, as it fills gaps …
Guest post: fictional limerence
Today's post is a bit out of the ordinary. My wife offered to write a guest post following my "deanonymising" moment, and here it is. (She's allowed me to add some pictures) Hi everyone! …
Case study: LO wants to be my best friend
Reader Andrew got in touch with me about a difficult dilemma: Help! I don't know what to do! My girlfriend dumped me about a month ago but she has made it clear she still wants me to be her best …
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