Quick update post this week. This thursday Sep 11th, I’ll be giving a talk on limerence at the Berwin’s North Salon in Harrogate, UK. These events are a great concept - an old-school …
Biased brains and bonding
I posted a new article on Psychology Today this week, all about brain lateralization—whether the brain can be …
Limerence and maladaptive daydreaming
Psychology is littered with attempts to describe a common source of distress, and define it as a specific condition, syndrome or disorder. Limerence is a great example of this principle. For …
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Coffeehouse: choosing a partner
Another trip to the LwL coffeehouse open thread, where conversations ramble and wisdom is sometimes uncovered among the cinnamon rolls. Where else would it be? This week, I'm going to kick off …
Choosing a partner wisely
I'm away on holiday at the moment, but following on from Owen's case study last week, here's an interesting video from the School of Life about how to choose a partner …
Case study: held back by limerence
Today’s case study is from Owen, who has begun to realise the unexpected impact that limerence has had on his life. I’ve never been in a relationship or really gone beyond the first couple of …
Integrity
Note: this is an updated version of an earlier post One of the best ways of managing the emotional assault of limerence is to work on understanding yourself. Work to increase your …
The No Contact checklist
No Contact is a tried and tested method for breaking the limerence habit. It's also more complicated than it first seems. Have you tried just stopping? There are a few posts scattered …
Coffeehouse: talking limerence with Fenna
Another month has rolled around, and so it's time for another trip to the LwL coffeehouse. Come one, come all This time, I'm delighted to share a discussion I had with trauma specialist, …
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Misperception of romantic interest
Hope is a big part of limerence. Hope that a romantic relationship might be possible. Hope that they might feel the same way about you. Hope that you might get to experience the ecstatic …
Evolutionary traps for limerents
From time to time, the topic of monogamy and human mating strategies comes up in discussions about limerence. Obviously mating behaviour will have a big bearing on limerence, and I've argued …
A new guide on how to find love as a limerent
A few weeks ago, I floated the idea of creating resources for people who are limerent, with all the complications in love that creates, but who are not looking for a "cure" or trying to get rid of …
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