I've spent this week working on a new post on the neuroscience of how limerence fades, drawing on the literature of habituation and hedonic adaptation, but if I'm honest it's been a bit of a …
Limerence research survey
Following on from a previous research project, I was recently contacted by a team from the University of Sussex in the UK who are running a new project, in collaboration with the team from Sheffield. …
A good video on limerence
Very busy week for me this week, but here's a video on limerence, with lot of good insights: https://youtu.be/9l5ALCPEBkc I particularly enjoyed the sections on being more aware of what role …
Case study: I don’t want to devalue my limerent object
Rachel got in touch recently about a scenario that is very difficult to cope with - not difficult because of any grand drama, or threats to life and limb, but because there is no simple escape from …
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On grief
My father died last week. I'm now immersed in a new world that I was previously unaware of - or rather, a world that always existed alongside me but that I could blissfully ignore. Funeral …
A philosopher’s response to limerence
"Reader" sent me a fascinating article this week, from the New Yorker: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/03/13/agnes-callard-profile-marriage-philosophy It details the experience of a …
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Coffeehouse: escaping the shadow of first limerence
It's been a while since we last checked in at the LwL coffeehouse. Home of sense-making, wise words and occasional balderdash Today's topic of conversation was proposed by Fabian: could you …
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Why are they leading me on?
A woman's greatest ambition is to inspire love Molière Limerence is an extreme manifestation of a near-universal human desire - to fall in love, to bond, and to devote oneself to a mate. Limerent …
A personal note on adversity
For six years, I have written this blog, and added a new post every Saturday morning at 9 am UK time. This is the first week that I thought I would not manage it. It is currently 11:52 pm on …
What makes a good romantic partner?
Life has really happened to me this week, so in lieu of the next post on purposeful living, here's a video that is cheering and optimistic about how to find love: …
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Morality, limerence and purposeful living
A couple of years ago, I read the book "The Righteous Mind" by Jonathan Haidt. For those unfamiliar, it introduces the concept of Moral Foundations Theory, which emerged from Haidt's research into the …
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Case study: why is limerence so painful?
Prolonged limerence is painful. Today's case study is from Lara, who is well versed with the principles of recovery we espouse here at LwL, but is nonetheless struggling with this part of the …
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