I'm away on holiday at the moment, but following on from Owen's case study last week, here's an interesting video from the School of Life about how to choose a partner …
Case study: held back by limerence
Today’s case study is from Owen, who has begun to realise the unexpected impact that limerence has had on his life. I’ve never been in a relationship or really gone beyond the first couple of …
Integrity
Note: this is an updated version of an earlier post One of the best ways of managing the emotional assault of limerence is to work on understanding yourself. Work to increase your …
The No Contact checklist
No Contact is a tried and tested method for breaking the limerence habit. It's also more complicated than it first seems. Have you tried just stopping? There are a few posts scattered …
Coffeehouse: talking limerence with Fenna
Another month has rolled around, and so it's time for another trip to the LwL coffeehouse. Come one, come all This time, I'm delighted to share a discussion I had with trauma specialist, …
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Misperception of romantic interest
Hope is a big part of limerence. Hope that a romantic relationship might be possible. Hope that they might feel the same way about you. Hope that you might get to experience the ecstatic …
Evolutionary traps for limerents
From time to time, the topic of monogamy and human mating strategies comes up in discussions about limerence. Obviously mating behaviour will have a big bearing on limerence, and I've argued …
A new guide on how to find love as a limerent
A few weeks ago, I floated the idea of creating resources for people who are limerent, with all the complications in love that creates, but who are not looking for a "cure" or trying to get rid of …
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Coffeehouse: bonding
The monthly trip to the LwL virtual coffeehouse is here. Your stimulant, sir This week I just have a few announcements for the patrons before the conversations kick off. First, thanks to …
Tell me your biggest limerence problems
I get lots of emails. Lots of people are struggling with limerence. Understandable, really, given that addiction to another person has a hugely disruptive effect on life. What? I'm …
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Finding purposeful work
Last summer, after a quarter of a century working as an academic scientist, I quit my job. Some of my friends thought I was mad. Tenured positions in elite universities are highly sought after, I’d …
Bits and pieces of news
Another busy week in the Bellamy household, so just a quick update on events this week. First up is the latest YouTube video - all about midlife limerence. …