No Contact is a tried and tested method for breaking the limerence habit. It's also more complicated than it first seems. Have you tried just stopping? There are a few posts scattered …
Coffeehouse: talking limerence with Fenna
Another month has rolled around, and so it's time for another trip to the LwL coffeehouse. Come one, come all This time, I'm delighted to share a discussion I had with trauma specialist, …
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Misperception of romantic interest
Hope is a big part of limerence. Hope that a romantic relationship might be possible. Hope that they might feel the same way about you. Hope that you might get to experience the ecstatic …
Evolutionary traps for limerents
From time to time, the topic of monogamy and human mating strategies comes up in discussions about limerence. Obviously mating behaviour will have a big bearing on limerence, and I've argued …
A new guide on how to find love as a limerent
A few weeks ago, I floated the idea of creating resources for people who are limerent, with all the complications in love that creates, but who are not looking for a "cure" or trying to get rid of …
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Coffeehouse: bonding
The monthly trip to the LwL virtual coffeehouse is here. Your stimulant, sir This week I just have a few announcements for the patrons before the conversations kick off. First, thanks to …
Tell me your biggest limerence problems
I get lots of emails. Lots of people are struggling with limerence. Understandable, really, given that addiction to another person has a hugely disruptive effect on life. What? I'm …
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Finding purposeful work
Last summer, after a quarter of a century working as an academic scientist, I quit my job. Some of my friends thought I was mad. Tenured positions in elite universities are highly sought after, I’d …
Bits and pieces of news
Another busy week in the Bellamy household, so just a quick update on events this week. First up is the latest YouTube video - all about midlife limerence. …
Youtube milestone and job opening
Yay! I hit the 10K subs milestone on my YouTube channel this morning. I've also hit the point where I need help. I'm looking for a freelance video editor with experience of editing talking …
Coffeehouse: what being a limerent means for your love life
The time has come for another open house discussion thread in the LwL Coffeehouse. *Sslluurrpp* This week, I have a specific topic on my mind. I first started this blog after a bad limerence …
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Playing with fire
Note: this is an updated version of an earlier post It's not an easy thing to abstain from bliss. For limerents in a long-term relationship who are suddenly struck by limerence for someone …