Here's a provocative and stimulating video about sexual conflict in humans: https://youtu.be/mu4Uki8VyLc I have to confess that my first reaction to the talk was scepticism, for two reasons. …
Cultivating purpose
I started this blog in February 2017. At the time, I was coming down from a brutal limerence episode, and my primary motive was to exorcise the lingering feelings that were clinging on, and to …
Limerence is in vogue
Sorry, couldn't resist the pun. The latest issue of Vogue has an article on limerence written by Fleur Britten. I had a good chat with her about limerence, neuroscience and recovery strategies, …
Case study: I want him to be limerent for me
Most of the correspondence I receive falls into one of two popular categories: "I'm limerent but don't want to be" or "My spouse is limerent for someone else, what do I do?" Every now and again, …
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Coffeehouse: the problem of ego
One of the factors that can make an LO "sticky" for single limerents is the ego-bruising disappointment that we were not good enough to persuade them into a relationship. Perversely, that can make LO …
How to change your behaviour for the better
One of the few benefits that can come from an episode of unwanted limerence is being forced to face some home truths about what you're doing with your life. There's nothing like the emotional storm of …
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What causes a crush to develop?
Ah, the bittersweet agony of a crush. That awful mix of exhilaration and anxiety, boldness and insecurity, hope and fear, giddiness and embarrassment. For some, a crush is a stimulating and …
Unanswered questions about limerence
From time to time I speak with journalists about limerence and its implications. The latest time was just this week, and the last question she asked me was: If there was one study you could carry …
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For those who are stuck
Following on from last week's discussion about whether fighting for a relationship is a good idea, the opposite problem is also a common trigger for limerence... Should I stay with them? …
Coffeehouse: should I fight for them?
One of the most complicated questions that I receive from people in distress, on all parts of the limerence spectrum, is "should I fight for them?" In this scenario, "them" could be an unfaithful …
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Testosterone and limerence
Long time readers will know that I tend to investigate limerence as a physiological phenomenon - what interests me most is how the altered mental state of limerence emerges from the functioning of the …
A research project on limerence
I've lamented before about the lack of research specifically aimed at understanding limerence as a psychological phenomenon. The LwL Guide to Limerence summarises the evidence base for interested …