It's 2025! Resolutions start tomorrow The Christmas to New Year lull is a wonderfully lazy time for me, so no blog post this week, except to say that I haven't been entirely idle. Here's …
Guest post: Limerence as a force for revolution
This week, another guest post by my wonderful wife, Teika, all about the significance of limerence in literature, and in shaping individual lives and larger social forces. Enjoy! Cover art by …
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Coffeehouse: Christmas limerence
It's that time of year when it always feels as though things should be winding down for Christmas, but in fact, Christmas preparations are just being added to the business of everyday life. The …
YouTube channel launch
As teased in the last post, I’ve finally got around to setting up a YouTube channel and posting my first video. It’s a super quick and simple channel intro, but the main thing is that it’s …
Navel gazing at 400
Nicely cryptic title today. This post is the 400th post on the Living with Limerence site. That’s a lot of typing. And explains my posture I tend to use these milestones for myself - to …
The links between limerence and anxious attachment
One of the most striking observations in the study of limerence is the link to anxious attachment. My attempt to estimate the prevalence of limerence in the general population suggests that 50-60% of …
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On the scientific evidence for limerence
One of the challenges in writing about limerence from a neuroscience perspective is that there is very little original research on limerence, specifically. It’s not a term or concept that has caught …
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Coffeehouse: demoralisation and despair
Another visit to the virtual coffee house of wisdom and camaraderie - where level heads put the world to rights, and wonky heads chitchat about whatever they please and meander wherever their fancy …
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Person addiction
Note: this is an updated version of an older post Limerence is an altered state of mind. That means its ultimate origins must lie in the brain. When Dorothy Tennov first defined limerence, she …
Is limerence a sign that something is wrong in life?
I often take a rather negative view of limerence. The majority of articles on the site come from the perspective that limerence needs to be managed or constrained or beaten or reversed, despite my …
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Limerence entanglements
One of the defining features of limerence is the soul-aching desire to be close to your limerent object. That’s because limerence is a drive to form a pair bond - in order to make babies, propagate …
Why do workplace crushes happen?
Workplace crushes are very common. In the past, before the advent of dating apps and social media, workplace relationships were also very common. Many people met their future spouse through work, or …