Nicely cryptic title today. This post is the 400th post on the Living with Limerence site. That’s a lot of typing. And explains my posture I tend to use these milestones for myself - to …
The links between limerence and anxious attachment
One of the most striking observations in the study of limerence is the link to anxious attachment. My attempt to estimate the prevalence of limerence in the general population suggests that 50-60% of …
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On the scientific evidence for limerence
One of the challenges in writing about limerence from a neuroscience perspective is that there is very little original research on limerence, specifically. It’s not a term or concept that has caught …
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Coffeehouse: demoralisation and despair
Another visit to the virtual coffee house of wisdom and camaraderie - where level heads put the world to rights, and wonky heads chitchat about whatever they please and meander wherever their fancy …
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Person addiction
Note: this is an updated version of an older post Limerence is an altered state of mind. That means its ultimate origins must lie in the brain. When Dorothy Tennov first defined limerence, she …
Is limerence a sign that something is wrong in life?
I often take a rather negative view of limerence. The majority of articles on the site come from the perspective that limerence needs to be managed or constrained or beaten or reversed, despite my …
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Limerence entanglements
One of the defining features of limerence is the soul-aching desire to be close to your limerent object. That’s because limerence is a drive to form a pair bond - in order to make babies, propagate …
Why do workplace crushes happen?
Workplace crushes are very common. In the past, before the advent of dating apps and social media, workplace relationships were also very common. Many people met their future spouse through work, or …
Coffeehouse: social media
Another visit to the virtual coffee house at LwL, this time with a very definite agenda on my part. Welcome, welcome! All the while that I was writing this blog pseudonymously as Dr L, I didn’t …
R.I.P. Helen Fisher
Helen Fisher, one of the most influential writers and researchers in the field of love, died at the end of August. It’s taken me a while to hear the news. There are some good obituaries that focus …
The madness of limerence
In the last post I made the case for limerence causing a collapse of self-discipline, which I termed "appetite supremacy", and outlined some of the bad consequences that can follow. They are pretty …
Calling all London limerents
Hi Folks. Now I'm out as myself, I'm starting to do some in-person events. The first one is in London on October 17th: If you've ever fancied spending an evening discussing love, and can …