From time to time I'm contacted by researchers who are taking an interest in limerence and embarking on new research to investigate the phenomenon. This is a welcome development, as it fills gaps …
Guest post: fictional limerence
Today's post is a bit out of the ordinary. My wife offered to write a guest post following my "deanonymising" moment, and here it is. (She's allowed me to add some pictures) Hi everyone! …
Case study: LO wants to be my best friend
Reader Andrew got in touch with me about a difficult dilemma: Help! I don't know what to do! My girlfriend dumped me about a month ago but she has made it clear she still wants me to be her best …
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Coffeehouse: the influence of environment
Another visit to the open thread that is the LwL coffeehouse, where any topic for conversation is welcome. Silky smooth Today's ice-breaker topic is how the environment you're in can influence …
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Internal versus external drivers of limerence
One of the core principles for limerence recovery here at LwL is that limerence is happening in your head. At the most fundamental level, limerence is a consequence of neurochemistry - it's an altered …
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Emotional versus physical affairs
The stimulus for this post is another nugget of wisdom from the coffeehouse. Adam raised the following issue: I could forgive my wife much easier for an emotional affair than a sexual one, even if …
Podcast on the Longing Lab
Quick heads up that I had a great conversation with Amanda McCracken, host of the the Longing Lab podcast, last week. We talked all things limerence and a bit about the origin of the blog and why I …
A new era for LwL
Big moment this, for me. I've been blogging here at LwL for seven years, under a pseudonym. There were various reasons why, but looking back on the first ever post, I was obviously concerned about …
Coffeehouse: signs you’re not over them
Time for another open thread for discussions about all things limerence. This week's opening topic is prompted by Mila's comment in the last coffeehouse post: Signs that you haven’t completely …
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Midlife crisis for limerents
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post Midlife is an interesting time. It begins to dawn on you that whatever endeavours you threw yourself into in early adulthood are coming to …
New project: dealing with limerence in marriage
I've been blogging recently about the impact of limerence on long-term relationships, and the devastating effect it can have on a marriage. It's been sobering to read accounts of the effect of …
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Is polyamory a solution for limerence?
Unexpected limerence in a marriage is tough. There are several reasons why married limerents might become vulnerable to the allure of a new limerent object. It's easy to slip into a state of benign …
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