Limerence is often dismissed by unsympathetic non-limerents as “a crush”. There's a definite undertone of disdain that any adult could still suffer with such childishness. Puppy-love, crushes, …
Case study: Limerence for a therapist
Reader Amy got in touch with a query: What if you end up having Limerence for your therapist? Specifically a trauma therapist who is supposedly trained in attachment issues? Is attachment to a …
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Obsession podcast
Following on from this post, the podcast on limerence is now live: Obsession podcast It's main focus is on unrequited love, and how that can turn into obsession, but for those curious to hear my …
When does limerence become an emotional affair?
In a recent conversation I was asked: How is limerence different from an emotional affair? The person asking was a non-limerent. My first reaction was befuddlement. I mean, obviously limerence …
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How to fix a broken heart
Reader Feesh sent me a link to a TED talk by Guy Winch on "How to Fix a Broken Heart." It's an interesting talk, because it has a lot of parallels to limerence. He explains heartbreak in terms of …
The loneliness of limerence
Following on from the last post on guilt, another aspect of limerence that I haven't much covered in the blog so far is the loneliness. They're linked, of course, because limerence is a guilty secret …
Why do limerents feel guilty?
One of the questions I was asked last week by the producers at Treefort was "why do limerents feel guilty?" Having had time to reflect, I think I kind of fluffed that question. I talked mainly …
A video on romantic love
Super busy at the moment, working on a new course for the site plus real life everyday work too. In lieu of a proper post, here's a thought provoking video from Helen …
Calling all limerents and LOs
Hi, All. Quick announcement: I've been contacted by a production company who are preparing a podcast on limerence and obsessive love for the LA times. They are keen to interview limerents about …
On infidelity, moral philosophy, and commenting policy
The previous post presented a particularly thorny limerence dilemma, and inadvertently also highlighted some of the difficulties presented when discussing emotionally incendiary topics. Like …
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Case study: limerent for a close family friend
From time to time, I receive a message from someone with a particularly thorny limerence problem, for whom the usual strategies are impractical. How's this for a tricky one? "Creative limerent" …
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Withdrawal pains
Once a limerent has resolved to take control and cut contact with LO, an almost inevitable consequence is the arrival of withdrawal pains. I talk a lot about limerence being understandable as …