That might seem like a clickbait title, but it’s actually a serious question. Although limerence is not a disease to be cured, it can certainly have a negative impact on life. I often get asked …
Even worse than unrequited love
https://youtu.be/kPYHsFbLLKs Unrequited love is awful. Desperately longing for someone who doesn’t feel the same way is a hopeless, demoralising state. But there’s something even …
Coffeehouse: frontal lobes and love
Another visit to the LwL coffeehouse - the open thread where any topic of conversation is fair game. Even Gossip To kick off the discussion this month, here's a new post I wrote on Psychology …
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Partner’s community
For those you've been following the blog for some time, you might remember a project I started over a year and a half ago to try and help people whose long-term relationships had been harmed by their …
Seven signs of toxic limerence
This week's YouTube video is all about how to tell when you've been limerent for too long: https://youtu.be/BnTOkHFTQRs?si=eqhp_LIcujSPBf8V Half the population of the world experience early …
What type of limerent are you?
I’ve previously written about the fact that limerence has both universal and personal aspects. The operation of the reward system in the brain follows predictable rules. When a reward is …
Coffeehouse: book launch
Another month flies by, which means it’s time for a visit to the LwL virtual coffeehouse. Where we dazzle the philosophers with the brilliance of our insights The conversation starter for this …
The language of love
Following on from last week’s guest post on the history of love research, the central point that “it’s often simply unclear who is talking about what,” captures a lot of the difficulties of …
Guest post: The state of romantic love
One of the headaches of working on limerence is that scholarly research on love suffers from a problem of definitions. Lots of the words we use in everyday life to talk about love have been used (and …
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Why are they so addictive?
Happy New Year to everyone at LwL! Here's my latest video on what makes some people especially addictive. Enjoy! https://youtu.be/VpKXmZx7-1s?si=LdAoKl36qCqYTWFX …
Coffeehouse: Limerence in The Holiday
Happy Christmas LwL peeps! This seasonal trip to the virtual coffeehouse was inspired by Onyx, who emailed to suggest that the relationship between Iris and Jasper in the romantic comedy "The …
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The pain of long-term limerence
I generally talk about limerence as runaway reward seeking—as person addiction in the sense of chasing the intoxicating high of the limerent object. Gimme gimme gimme That’s definitely the route …