Note: this is an updated version of a previous post Limerence can be well described as an altered state of mind. Once the infatuation for someone new sets in, it changes your perceptions, your …
People who like to live in uncertainty
I've opined on many occasions that uncertainty is the rocket fuel of limerence. I've tended to discuss this from the perspective of flaky LOs who give mixed messages, behave unpredictably, or want to …
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The two tribes
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post In her landmark book, Love and Limerence, Dorothy Tennov describes how she finally formulated the concept of limerence on a long haul flight with …
How common is limerence: the numbers
A long-running unanswered question about limerence is how common it is in the general population. When she first articulated the idea, Dorothy Tennov didn't really give a clear answer. She talked …
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Limerence and the second sex
I've always been rather impressed by the fact that the original text on limerence - Love and Limerence, by Dorothy Tennov - had a cover jacket blurb by Simone de Beauvoir. I mean, talk about bragging …
Skills for a healthy relationship
Many of the relationship problems created by limerence result from a conflict between the wild fantasy ideal that limerence promises and the workaday reality of actually living with another …