A question I very commonly receive by email (from both limerents, and the affected spouses of limerents) is: "how long is this going to last?" I wish I could give an answer. The reality, of course, …
Barriers and uncertainty
Following on from last week's post, I've been wondering about the circumstances and conditions that can push limerence into a descending spiral of addictive misery. It certainly seems to be true that …
The definition of limerence
I've been thinking again about what limerence is. We have a fairly well-established list of common symptoms, and so limerence is most easily defined as "having enough of those symptoms to qualify". …
Limerence for celebrities
Limerence is often dismissed by unsympathetic non-limerents as “a crush”. There's a definite undertone of disdain that any adult could still suffer with such childishness. Puppy-love, crushes, …
The loneliness of limerence
Following on from the last post on guilt, another aspect of limerence that I haven't much covered in the blog so far is the loneliness. They're linked, of course, because limerence is a guilty secret …
The stories we tell ourselves
In the previous post, I talked about reverie, and how limerents tend to rehearse scenes in their minds as a way of feeling connected to LO and trying to prepare for future meetings. Another aspect of …