Limerence is sometimes described as false love. This argument is built on the premise that limerence is largely selfish (in the literal sense of being focussed on your own feelings and needs), is …
Is limerence all bad?
Although the title of this site is "living with limerence", and so could seem analogous to "living with diabetes" or "living with OCD", limerence really isn't all bad. Most limerents, if given the …
Uncertainty
Why does uncertainty have such power in cementing desire for a limerent object? It makes sense that rejection would (hopefully) kill limerent desire, but it seems a bit counterintuitive that …
Flirting
Flirting is commonplace. Some people proudly proclaim themselves shameless flirts. They flirt with everyone; nothing personal. Flirting is most often described as "harmless fun". Where seen as …
Do they like me too?
In an earlier post, I described the second stage of limerence as "the response". So, assuming you have felt the glimmer, the next thing your limerent brain tries to determine is the possibility of …
The Glimmer givers
What makes someone a potential limerent object? What special something tickles the arousal circuitry in just the right way to trigger escalating limerence? It may be a fool's errand to try and …