Super-busy with the day job at the moment, so behind on blogging. Whenever possible, I work with some background music. Often this needs to be classical (or at least lyric-free) but sometimes …
Limerence, libido, and the challenge of long term romance
In the last post I analysed the sometimes strange intersections between lust and limerence. One thing that both phenomena share is transience. For lust, it can be very short-lived. Limerence is more …
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Limerence and the friendzone
We've all been there. Limerence is nucleating, and you are getting the euphoric thrill of connection with a new person. They are rapidly becoming your LO, and you are trying to gauge the degree of …
The two tribes
In her landmark book, Dorothy Tennov described how she had crystallised the concept of limerence around an interaction with a friend (who she liked and admired) on a plane journey, in which she came …
Resilience
When you're going through hell... keep going. Winston Churchill. As I've grown older, I've come to realise that one of the most important life skills to cultivate is resilience. It perhaps seems …
Choosing well
Awareness of limerence and the effects it has on your behaviour is an important step in establishing healthy relationships. Once the key features of limerence are understood, that knowledge can help …