In the last post, we talked about how to plan a purposeful life, and how that shift in lifestyle can protect you against limerence. It sets you up to be more resilient to change, and less vulnerable …
Planning your purposeful life
I talk a lot about purposeful living, and why I think it’s the best cure for limerence. In part, that's because limerence often manifests itself during periods of stress, grief, or other big …
Resisting limerent urges
Limerence is an extraordinary desire. The intensity of our longing for LO falls well beyond the usual range of everyday experience, which is probably why we find it so easy to believe that our LOs …
Love in the time of corona
OK, maybe the title should be "limerence in the time of covid-19", but I couldn't resist the literary allusion. The current pandemic is making us all face how our lives can suddenly be thrown into …
Why do they seem so special?
Idealisation is a big part of limerence. It’s also a big part of the ‘object’ bit of limerent object. We elevate these mysterious people who walk among us into paragons - impossible romantic ideals. …
The psychological appeal of giving in
There is something strangely seductive about surrendering your will to a craving. Even when you know it's bad for you, you yield to the compulsion. When the opportunity to indulge presents itself, you …
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