Limerence is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation, first defined in the 1970s by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It is characterised by an initial period of elation and intense emotional …
When things go sour
I've always taken the view that limerence is both a good and bad thing. If you are mutually limerent for someone who is free to reciprocate, then life is blissful. But that doesn't happen very …
How common is limerence?
Edit to update: Since writing this article, I have actually carried out a large-scale survey of the prevalence of limerence in the general population. Results are here. Two of the most frequent …
The green shoots of recovery
Becoming more self-aware is a core skill for recovering from limerence. The ability to detach your self-scrutiny from your moment-to-moment emotional state allows you to be more aware of what you are …
Dating red flags for limerents
I write a lot about marriage and limerence (because I'm a married limerent), but I sometimes hear from friends, family and the media all about the perils of modern dating. So, for those readers still …
Limerence and the sexless marriage
Back in the early days of the blog, I wrote about limerence and libido. I argued that problems can arise in long-term relationships for those limerents who have a very tight mental association between …