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Learn all about limerence and how to live with it, how to improve your relationships as a limerent (or partner of a limerent), and how to recover when you are caught in the mental trap of obsessive infatuation.
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What is limerence?

Information about limerence and how to manage it
A guide for professionals

The evidence base for limerence summarised for coaches and therapists
How to get rid of limerence

Practical steps to overcoming destructive infatuation

The essential guide to limerence
Everything you ever wanted to know about limerence and how to live with it in one handy guide
The Limerence quiz
Are you a limerent? Find out by taking this quick quiz:
The Blog
All the latest articles about limerence and how to survive it.
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Case study: when No Contact doesn’t work
Today’s case study is a good one. Serena got in touch about how to deal with a tough problem: when no…
What does limerence mean for a marriage?
One of the most destructive forms of limerence is when a married person becomes limerent for someone else. There is an…
The psychology of wanting unavailable people
One of the more painful scenarios that limerents have to deal with is when their limerence avatar is “unavailable people”. I’ve…
Continue Reading The psychology of wanting unavailable people
Coffeehouse: should you write a letter to LO?
Today’s topic was proposed by reader Mana, who wondered about the benefits of writing a letter to LO. That struck me…
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Can you be friends with your crush?
It is an agony most of us have known: you develop romantic feelings for a friend, but they don’t feel the…
Finding purpose through ikigai
Unwanted limerence often flares up when we are discontented with life. Not always, of course, and plenty of contented and empowered…

Quickstart guides, community forum and online courses
All the resources we have for how to survive limerence and live with purpose. Find the support you need.
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