When you're going through hell... keep going. Winston Churchill. As I've grown older, I've come to realise that one of the most important life skills to cultivate is resilience. It perhaps seems …
Choosing well
Awareness of limerence and the effects it has on your behaviour is an important step in establishing healthy relationships. Once the key features of limerence are understood, that knowledge can help …
Person addiction
Limerence certainly resembles addiction in many key respects. There are the neurophysiological highs, and the withdrawal lows. The cravings, the disruption of everyday routines, the habit formation. …
Emotional affairs
Spend some time on the pages of the collective sum of human misery that is the agony aunt blogosphere, and you'll come across the idea of the "emotional affair". Definitions vary somewhat, but the …
Limerence links
I'm still a little taken aback by how limited the awareness of limerence is in popular culture. In fact, there is even a surprising dearth of information about limerence on the web. Here are some of …
Why does limerence exist?
One of the curious consequences of learning that non-limerents exist, is that for the first time we limerents can start to wonder both "who has it better", and "what is limerence for, anyway"? The …
Can’t we just be friends?
Is it possible to be friends with your LO? You do, after all, enjoy their company. And they really seem to understand you. And you care about their happiness. Surely those are all important aspects of …
False love
Limerence is sometimes described as false love. This argument is built on the premise that limerence is largely selfish (in the literal sense of being focussed on your own feelings and needs), is …
Is limerence all bad?
Although the title of this site is "living with limerence", and so could seem analogous to "living with diabetes" or "living with OCD", limerence really isn't all bad. Most limerents, if given the …
Uncertainty
Why does uncertainty have such power in cementing desire for a limerent object? It makes sense that rejection would (hopefully) kill limerent desire, but it seems a bit counterintuitive that …
Flirting
Flirting is commonplace. Some people proudly proclaim themselves shameless flirts. They flirt with everyone; nothing personal. Flirting is most often described as "harmless fun". Where seen as …