I've talked before about the loneliness of limerence. The isolation associated with limerence comes in large part from feeling that it shouldn't be happening, and that it's a shameful secret that the …
How long does limerence last?
A question I very commonly receive by email (from both limerents, and the affected spouses of limerents) is: "how long is this going to last?" I wish I could give an answer. The reality, of course, …
Barriers and uncertainty
Following on from last week's post, I've been wondering about the circumstances and conditions that can push limerence into a descending spiral of addictive misery. It certainly seems to be true that …
The definition of limerence
I've been thinking again about what limerence is. We have a fairly well-established list of common symptoms, and so limerence is most easily defined as "having enough of those symptoms to qualify". …
Limerence for celebrities
Limerence is often dismissed by unsympathetic non-limerents as “a crush”. There's a definite undertone of disdain that any adult could still suffer with such childishness. Puppy-love, crushes, …
Case study: Limerence for a therapist
Reader Amy got in touch with a query: What if you end up having Limerence for your therapist? Specifically a trauma therapist who is supposedly trained in attachment issues? Is attachment to a …
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Obsession podcast
Following on from this post, the podcast on limerence is now live: Obsession podcast It's main focus is on unrequited love, and how that can turn into obsession, but for those curious to hear my …
When does limerence become an emotional affair?
In a recent conversation I was asked: How is limerence different from an emotional affair? The person asking was a non-limerent. My first reaction was befuddlement. I mean, obviously limerence …
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How to fix a broken heart
Reader Feesh sent me a link to a TED talk by Guy Winch on "How to Fix a Broken Heart." It's an interesting talk, because it has a lot of parallels to limerence. He explains heartbreak in terms of …
The loneliness of limerence
Following on from the last post on guilt, another aspect of limerence that I haven't much covered in the blog so far is the loneliness. They're linked, of course, because limerence is a guilty secret …
Why do limerents feel guilty?
One of the questions I was asked last week by the producers at Treefort was "why do limerents feel guilty?" Having had time to reflect, I think I kind of fluffed that question. I talked mainly …
A video on romantic love
Super busy at the moment, working on a new course for the site plus real life everyday work too. In lieu of a proper post, here's a thought provoking video from Helen …