Hi, All. Quick announcement: I've been contacted by a production company who are preparing a podcast on limerence and obsessive love for the LA times. They are keen to interview limerents about …
On infidelity, moral philosophy, and commenting policy
The previous post presented a particularly thorny limerence dilemma, and inadvertently also highlighted some of the difficulties presented when discussing emotionally incendiary topics. Like …
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Case study: limerent for a close family friend
From time to time, I receive a message from someone with a particularly thorny limerence problem, for whom the usual strategies are impractical. How's this for a tricky one? "Creative limerent" …
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Withdrawal pains
Once a limerent has resolved to take control and cut contact with LO, an almost inevitable consequence is the arrival of withdrawal pains. I talk a lot about limerence being understandable as …
New Year’s resolutions that stick
It's that time of year when people look to the future, look at themselves, and resolve to improve. It's a great impulse, but it's also an unfortunate truth that most resolutions barely outlast …
Living with unrequited limerence
Oftentimes, limerence is unrequited. It may be that LO is not interested, it may be that one or other of you are unavailable. Regardless of the cause, with one sided limerence that isn't resolved, a …
Limerence as stress relief
Life is stressful. By the time people reach adulthood, they have generally developed a suite of methods for coping with stress, avoiding stress, or reducing stress. Some of these coping strategies are …
Limerence for a co-worker
This has to be one of the commonest limerence traps out there. It's certainly the most common scenario that people email me about, and no wonder; all the elements of limerence are there: close …
Understanding the limerent high
One of the nice benefits of running this site is that I get to hear from lots of interesting people about how limerence is affecting their lives. A surprisingly common lament - often voiced quietly or …
Rewriting history
Commenter Maddie asks about the disorienting strangeness when limerents - especially ones who have embarked on affairs - rewrite the history of their marriage. Suddenly, a life together that had …
The Devil within us
Following on from previous musings about how breaking the limerence habit can feel like an battle with an internal version of yourself that is greedy and has poor impulse control, I've been thinking …
Transition complete
*Taps microphone* I think this is on. Welcome all to the newly configured site. Hopefully all is well, but no doubt I'll be chasing broken links and glitches for a while. If anyone spots something, …