Busy times in the Dr L household, so here's a link to a podcast that I did with Tim and Sharon Tedder over at AffairHealing.com: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast408.html ...in which I …
Case study: spiritually reinforcing limerence
I recently heard from John, a reader whose wife has become limerent for someone else, but with an unusual twist that I hadn't come across before. First off, John has clearly been reading carefully as …
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Getting through to limerent spouses
Some of the most upsetting emails that arrive in my inbox are from spouses who have had their marriage collapse from under them because their husband or wife has become limerent for someone else. At …
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Figuring out how best to “treat” limerence
One of the most fascinating areas of science for me is the interface between neuroscience and psychology. To be more specific: neurophysiology is the study of how brains work at a mechanistic level …
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Spotting trouble: LOs to avoid
A guiding principle of this site is that limerence is a psychological trait that a certain fraction of humankind has, and not a pathology or defect to be exterminated. The best approach to limerence, …
Rebuilding trust
For those married folks struggling with limerence, I'm a big advocate of disclosure to your spouse as a powerful tactic for recovery. I've talked about the benefits before, but as with all …
The four phases of No Contact
No contact is the soundest strategy for getting over an LO, but it's also often logistically tricky, difficult to implement, and difficult to stick to. Whenever you're faced with a problem …
More on midlife limerence
Midlife is a common time for limerence emergencies. There are a few good reasons for this, as we've discussed before, but in the previous post I didn't really consider what the midlife limerent was …
Case study: limerent while single
Recently, a reader, Kay, got in touch to ask about the differences in dealing with limerence for single versus married limerents. I do tend to write from the perspective of the marrieds - partly …
What’s happened to my spouse?
I've written a lot about the experience of limerence from the perspective of the limerent going through it. The impacts of limerence ripple out much further, though. I recently had an email from a …
Is limerence always about pair-bonding?
Berty emailed me with a thought-provoking question about limerence and pair-bonding: I'm still puzzling at the pair-bonding as the only source. It seems too narrow - especially for those of us …
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Guest post on The Neuroscience of “Affair Fog”
I got in touch with Tim Tedder over at AffairHealing.com a couple of weeks ago after reading an article of his called But My Affair is Different. The parallels with limerence and affair fog were …
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