A previous post riffed off a podcast by Joe Beam about limerence affairs, and the phases that they pass through. It seems to be a post that resonated with a lot of readers, and to judge from my inbox …
Using limerence for mood regulation
It's an unhappy truth that limerence is worst when you're unhappy. Limerence can often start during a time of of trial: when you are exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed, lonely, grieving, or depressed. …
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Why limerence is a better explanation than Twin Flames
In the last post, I drew parallels between the concepts of Twin Flames and the concepts of limerence, and showed that there was a lot of overlap. However, a perfectly reasonable response to that …
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Can limerence explain Twin Flames?
Following on from a recent case study post, a discussion broke out in the comments about the overlap between limerence (as understood from a neuroscience perspective), and spiritual interpretations of …
Limerence and insecurity
I spend a goodly amount of time here at LwL trying to understand the factors that make limerence more or less likely to occur. There are some repeating themes - intermittent reward, uncertainty, …
A video on purposeful living
Well, sorta. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9AThycGCakk As a general principle, listening to other people who have achieved something noteworthy is a shrewd way to learn something useful. …
Wanting versus liking
One of the weird features of limerence is the ongoing desire for contact with LO even after you've realised it's unhealthy and bad for you. Well, actually, it's not all that weird - it's a common …
Common mistakes that limerents make
Limerence and good judgement are not close friends. To an outside observer, a limerent trying to navigate their interactions with an LO must look rather like a drunk trying to walk a straight line. …
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Case study: limerence as a barrier to taking the first step
Ulysses is battling limerence. In his case, limerence is proving a barrier to the natural expression of his feelings: I've been struggling to get close enough of my LO to disclose my feelings to …
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The Recovery Room podcast
Busy times in the Dr L household, so here's a link to a podcast that I did with Tim and Sharon Tedder over at AffairHealing.com: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast408.html ...in which I …
Case study: spiritually reinforcing limerence
I recently heard from John, a reader whose wife has become limerent for someone else, but with an unusual twist that I hadn't come across before. First off, John has clearly been reading carefully as …
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Getting through to limerent spouses
Some of the most upsetting emails that arrive in my inbox are from spouses who have had their marriage collapse from under them because their husband or wife has become limerent for someone else. At …
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