In a previous post, I wrote about freedom from limerence and all the benefits that blessed liberty offers. Sharnhorst added a comment suggesting a good topic: what are the "markers of …
Risk taking
For all its explanatory power, limerence hasn't made much impact on the psychological or medical literature. My suspicion is that other theories (mainly attachment and co-dependency) came along soon …
The morality of limerence
There's a lot of moral philosophising going on at the moment, so naturally I thought I should have a go. What could possibly go wrong? The stimulus for this particular topic is the coincidence …
Case study: LO wanted my friend
There are lots of obstacles along the road to recovery from limerence. Here at LwL we advocate for an internal focus for responding to unwanted limerence: it's happening in our heads, we can't control …
How common is limerence?
Edit to update: Since writing this article, I have actually carried out a large-scale survey of the prevalence of limerence in the general population. Results are here. Two of the most frequent …
The green shoots of recovery
Becoming more self-aware is a core skill for recovering from limerence. The ability to detach your self-scrutiny from your moment-to-moment emotional state allows you to be more aware of what you are …
Case study: ghosted by LO
Reader G got in touch about a speed bump on her road to recovery: I have a question - you talk a lot about the importance of going no-contact to get over Limerence, but what if LO is the one to …
And I want you so it’s an obsession
As responsible parents trying to raise well-adjusted children, my wife and I will occasionally expose them to important, soul-enriching cultural touchstones. You know: museums, art galleries, opera. …
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Dating red flags for limerents
I write a lot about marriage and limerence (because I'm a married limerent), but I sometimes hear from friends, family and the media all about the perils of modern dating. So, for those readers still …
Limerence and the sexless marriage
Back in the early days of the blog, I wrote about limerence and libido. I argued that problems can arise in long-term relationships for those limerents who have a very tight mental association between …
What if they’re out of your league?
In the comments section of a previous post, B raised an interesting point about the situation where limerent and LO are mismatched in terms of physical attractiveness. That got me thinking: should …
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Barriers to purposeful living
In the last post, we talked about how to plan a purposeful life, and how that shift in lifestyle can protect you against limerence. It sets you up to be more resilient to change, and less vulnerable …