Some limerents have to battle with limerent objects that are bad for them. Maybe their LO is narcissistic, maybe they are flaky, or maybe they are unavailable but nevertheless keep playing with the …
Update and a little light relief
A couple of weeks ago, I asked you what you wanted, and you replied! Many thanks to all those that completed the survey on what you want more of here at LwL. Here are the results: I have to …
Case study: stalked by LO
The consequences of a limerence episode can last longer than we want. Jasmine got in touch recently, regarding a problem that has no easy solution. Her LO is stalking her. The knee-jerk …
On forgiveness
One of the topics that comes up frequently in discussions about limerence recovery, is the issue of guilt. Sometimes arguments about guilt focus on assigning blame, or what constitutes a moral …
Future planning
It's summer in England, and after a crazy period organising return to work after the coronavirus lockdown (wwwaaaayyyy harder than organising going into lockdown), I'm finally looking forward to some …
When things go sour
I've always taken the view that limerence is both a good and bad thing. If you are mutually limerent for someone who is free to reciprocate, then life is blissful. But that doesn't happen very …
Freedom from limerence is…
In a previous post, I wrote about freedom from limerence and all the benefits that blessed liberty offers. Sharnhorst added a comment suggesting a good topic: what are the "markers of …
Risk taking
For all its explanatory power, limerence hasn't made much impact on the psychological or medical literature. My suspicion is that other theories (mainly attachment and co-dependency) came along soon …
The morality of limerence
There's a lot of moral philosophising going on at the moment, so naturally I thought I should have a go. What could possibly go wrong? The stimulus for this particular topic is the coincidence …
Case study: LO wanted my friend
There are lots of obstacles along the road to recovery from limerence. Here at LwL we advocate for an internal focus for responding to unwanted limerence: it's happening in our heads, we can't control …
How common is limerence?
Edit to update: Since writing this article, I have actually carried out a large-scale survey of the prevalence of limerence in the general population. Results are here. Two of the most frequent …
The green shoots of recovery
Becoming more self-aware is a core skill for recovering from limerence. The ability to detach your self-scrutiny from your moment-to-moment emotional state allows you to be more aware of what you are …