Note: This is an old post that lays out a few tactics for how to get rid of limerence. I've now written a much more comprehensive recovery plan here: Overcoming limerence For all its promise …
What is limerence?
Limerence is a mental state of profound romantic infatuation, first defined in the 1970s by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov. It is characterised by an initial period of elation and intense emotional …
Back to basics
Here's some interesting information about Living with limerence: 186 posts189,432 words10,107 comments1,409,159 words in comments That's a lot of words, thoughts, ideas, and discussed lives. …
Good LOs
Some limerents have to battle with limerent objects that are bad for them. Maybe their LO is narcissistic, maybe they are flaky, or maybe they are unavailable but nevertheless keep playing with the …
Update and a little light relief
A couple of weeks ago, I asked you what you wanted, and you replied! Many thanks to all those that completed the survey on what you want more of here at LwL. Here are the results: I have to …
Case study: stalked by LO
The consequences of a limerence episode can last longer than we want. Jasmine got in touch recently, regarding a problem that has no easy solution. Her LO is stalking her. The knee-jerk …
On forgiveness
One of the topics that comes up frequently in discussions about limerence recovery, is the issue of guilt. Sometimes arguments about guilt focus on assigning blame, or what constitutes a moral …
Future planning
It's summer in England, and after a crazy period organising return to work after the coronavirus lockdown (wwwaaaayyyy harder than organising going into lockdown), I'm finally looking forward to some …
When things go sour
I've always taken the view that limerence is both a good and bad thing. If you are mutually limerent for someone who is free to reciprocate, then life is blissful. But that doesn't happen very …
Freedom from limerence is…
In a previous post, I wrote about freedom from limerence and all the benefits that blessed liberty offers. Sharnhorst added a comment suggesting a good topic: what are the "markers of …
Risk taking
For all its explanatory power, limerence hasn't made much impact on the psychological or medical literature. My suspicion is that other theories (mainly attachment and co-dependency) came along soon …
The morality of limerence
There's a lot of moral philosophising going on at the moment, so naturally I thought I should have a go. What could possibly go wrong? The stimulus for this particular topic is the coincidence …