Following on from previous musings about how breaking the limerence habit can feel like an battle with an internal version of yourself that is greedy and has poor impulse control, I've been thinking …
Transition complete
*Taps microphone* I think this is on. Welcome all to the newly configured site. Hopefully all is well, but no doubt I'll be chasing broken links and glitches for a while. If anyone spots something, …
A new era
Well now. I've been typing away here at LwL for almost two years, and am still having a good time of it. Lots of people email me to share their stories, and thank me for setting this place up, which …
Can limerence be safely harnessed?
At first limerence is amazing. And then it isn't. This transition - from exhilarating to exhausting - mirrors the transition from initial high to desperate dependency for drugs of abuse, which is …
Life as a limerent: autopilot mode
One of the most disruptive aspects of limerence is the total attention-capture that sets in. At first, the limerent is OK with that - after all there's nothing more interesting or enjoyable in their …
Narcissist LOs
Reader jaideux suggested a post on narcissistic LOs. It's an important topic, and a real danger for limerents. Anyone who feeds the limerence cycle is a threat, but narcissists can combine the worst …
Overcoming limerence for good
If this blog has a theme it's that mastery over limerence comes from living with purpose. That's the only way I know of to make the lasting changes needed to rob limerence of its power to derail your …
Limerence as an act of rebellion
There can be lots of reasons why people fall into limerence: anxiety, uncertainty about what they want from life, midlife stress that time is running out, problems with their long-term …
The stories we tell ourselves
In the previous post, I talked about reverie, and how limerents tend to rehearse scenes in their minds as a way of feeling connected to LO and trying to prepare for future meetings. Another aspect of …
The seduction of limerent reverie
It's fair to say that limerents think about their limerent objects quite often. Say, every moment of every day. OK, maybe every other moment. The point is: they invade your mind. The nature of this …
Introvert limerents
When in a thoughtful mood, one of the more absorbing aspects of limerence in my opinion is the potential for intersection with other psychological traits and mental disorders. A notion that has been …
Why is it so hard to kick the limerence habit?
Easy answer: because deep down you don't want to. I like the idea of defining limerence as "person addiction", and one of the reasons that definition seems so apt is because addicts are driven by a …
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