Reader Feesh sent me a link to a TED talk by Guy Winch on "How to Fix a Broken Heart." It's an interesting talk, because it has a lot of parallels to limerence. He explains heartbreak in terms of …
The loneliness of limerence
Following on from the last post on guilt, another aspect of limerence that I haven't much covered in the blog so far is the loneliness. They're linked, of course, because limerence is a guilty secret …
Why do limerents feel guilty?
One of the questions I was asked last week by the producers at Treefort was "why do limerents feel guilty?" Having had time to reflect, I think I kind of fluffed that question. I talked mainly …
A video on romantic love
Super busy at the moment, working on a new course for the site plus real life everyday work too. In lieu of a proper post, here's a thought provoking video from Helen …
Calling all limerents and LOs
Hi, All. Quick announcement: I've been contacted by a production company who are preparing a podcast on limerence and obsessive love for the LA times. They are keen to interview limerents about …
On infidelity, moral philosophy, and commenting policy
The previous post presented a particularly thorny limerence dilemma, and inadvertently also highlighted some of the difficulties presented when discussing emotionally incendiary topics. Like …
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Case study: limerent for a close family friend
From time to time, I receive a message from someone with a particularly thorny limerence problem, for whom the usual strategies are impractical. How's this for a tricky one? "Creative limerent" …
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Withdrawal pains
Once a limerent has resolved to take control and cut contact with LO, an almost inevitable consequence is the arrival of withdrawal pains. I talk a lot about limerence being understandable as …
New Year’s resolutions that stick
It's that time of year when people look to the future, look at themselves, and resolve to improve. It's a great impulse, but it's also an unfortunate truth that most resolutions barely outlast …
Living with unrequited limerence
Oftentimes, limerence is unrequited. It may be that LO is not interested, it may be that one or other of you are unavailable. Regardless of the cause, with one sided limerence that isn't resolved, a …
Limerence as stress relief
Life is stressful. By the time people reach adulthood, they have generally developed a suite of methods for coping with stress, avoiding stress, or reducing stress. Some of these coping strategies are …
Limerence for a co-worker
This has to be one of the commonest limerence traps out there. It's certainly the most common scenario that people email me about, and no wonder; all the elements of limerence are there: close …